Clinic woes and worried

Well, Im in my 24th week now and hectic as can be. I got turned away by a clinic in Minnesota, but we're moving back to Chicago, so I called up to schedule an appointment with one of the best clinics out by where Ill be, but they said that they have stopped taking new patients due to being so swamped. The lady there also told me that now its going to be impossible for me to find a clinic or doc that'll help because Im so far along and they don't want to be bothered. But I explained that I have been feeling icky, dizzy and nauseas a lot lately, and that my blood pressure is awfully high becaues Im stressed out about doing everything right. So she told me that if I go to the emergency room there, and get into trioj, and get looked at, she'll see what she can do to get me in the clinic because she is now worried about me. I started to cry on the phone. I never got to see a doc yet because we either were moving around too much, didn't have $ or the man was just working too much to take me. Im really scared that I wont get to see a doc. My fingers and ankles and feet started to swell up a bit, and my blood pressure is high enuf where I can see my pulse in my veins in my ankles, and now I can't stop obsessing with Eclampsia. I don't want to lose my baby, so Im trying to do everything that I can to do the right things. Im eating healthy, getting vitamins and nutrients and staying hydrated and all the good things I should be doing, but Im still so nervous. I now have to apply for Medicaid in Illinois because thats 2 states away and its where Ill be in less than 2 weeks, so thats going to postpone doctor visits too... Its all so very crazy, and I cry about it a lot. When I feel the baby kick, I just feel like I can't do enuf for this precious little gem inside of me, and I want to give it the world! ANy advice would be appreciated. I don't expect it tho, I seem to be the invisible ghost on the forum... so anything you got to say, Ill listen. I need all the encouragement I can get at this point! Thanks ladies and I hope you're all doing well!    

THEY HAVE A CERTAIN NUMBER OF TESTS AND THINGS THEY MUST PERFORM, SO JUST MAKE AN APPOINTMENT ASAP AND THEY WILL TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING. YOU STRESSING ISN'T HELPING YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE.

I DID try to make an appointment. They told me that I wont be able to see a doc now because Im too far along. The only clinic type thing I can go to is an hour from where I will be, and its the kinda place that stab wounds and gunshot victoms go to because they either dont have insurance or because it was prolly a crime and they'll be in trouble... SO Im freaked out. I know there are a ton of tests I need. I dont know the gender, haven't heard the heartbeat, haven't had an ultrasound, haven't even had a doc to ask questions to yet, I just keep getting turned away by all the places that are supposed to help!

I am so sorry to hear about your situation! Its so hard to imagine someone turning away a woman who is pregnant and in need of a doctors appointment! I've never had that problem here in Colorado but I do hope that you get to see a doctors soon, because there are many tests that are done in the 1st and 2nd Trimesters. Try not to worry too much because its not going to help your blood pressure. All I can do is offer my support and words of encouragment! Things should be fine if you've been doing everything right. I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and I also have swelling of the hands and feet. So just think of it as normal symptoms so you dont stress too much! If you need to talk here's my email : Babymaliyah2004@yahoo.com
I hope everything works out for you! Take care and keep me updated! Always Vikki

THIS MAY BE FAR FETCHED, BUT WHAT ABOUT HOME NURSES? MY AUNT HAD 3 OF HER 4 CHILDREN AT HOME, AND WITH 2 OF THEM NEVER WENT TO THE DOCTOR. A NURSE CAME TO HER HOUSE, EXCEPT WITH LAB WORK AND THINGS LIKE ULTRASOUNDS THE LADY DID EVERYTHING AT HER HOUSE. I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW WIDELY THIS IS AVAILABLE. IT'S SAD THAT THE HEALTH PROFESSION HAS COME TO THIS. I AM PLANNING ON GOING BACK TO SCHOOL FOR MY NURSING DEGREE. I WANT TO GET INTO OB/GYN NURSING. I HOPE THE BEST FOR YOU.

Home birth isn't an option. The house itself is falling apart, we have to clean up the spare for the baby, repaint, Im going to paint a mural of baby Winnie the Pooh hugging baby Tigger (Im a cartoonist, so I thought it only natural to give it my flair) and besides, we're moving there primarily to aid my mother in law... she is having financial issues and would lose the house if we weren't stepping in to help. Im not yet 23, my fiance (yeah I know I said husband before but frankly, even tho we're not married, he's the only true family Ive had in over a year) just turned 26, we have a new car, we're being hosed on insurance, the baby is 3 months away and nwo we have to take on moms bills too, so the stress is mounting... My head is spinning. I really don't have too many options at the moment... so Im planning on going and admitting to the emergency triog at the local hospital (Where the clinic that turned me down is located) because it might be my only hope... Its really depressing. My fiance isn't all that supportive in terms of development and doctors visits, but I know he loves me and is just scared... Other than that, tho, I am a bit scared... I just want things to go smoothly... Im working on that part

I WAS LOOKING UP INFO A FEW MINUTES AGO ABOUT HOME BIRTHS, AND IT SAID THAT THERE ARE SOME THAT DELIVER BABIES IN OTHER FACILITIES. NOT JUST HOME AND NOT JUST HOSPITAL. THE THING I'M WORRIED ABOUT FOR YOU IS MONEY. DO YOU HAVE INSURANCE? HAVE YOU LOOKED INTO STATE ASSISTANCE? I KNOW IT FEELS LIKE YOU ARE POOR ON IT, BUT I KNOW A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT HAVE HAD MEDICAL ASSISTANCE THAT WERENT POOR. SEVERAL OF MY FRIENDS WHOSE HUSBANDS ARE IN THE AIRFORCE HAVE BEEN ON IT. THEY MAKE REALLY GOOD MONEY. THEY ALSO QUALIFIED FOR W.I.C. HAVE YOU APPLIED FOR THAT? GOOD LUCK, LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU FIND OUT.

Im in the process of applying for Medicaid and the Wick card, and other financial aid... my fiance has to quit his job and find a new one quickly so we're not in over our heads... We have no $ saved, we have to pay thru the nose on insurance and the car payments, and if we don't contribute enuf to his mom to help her with bills she might lose her home... so we have a lot of expenses coming up in under 2 weeks... Im frantic... Ive been trying to relax, trying to rest as much as possible so my blood pressure doens't screw me, but its not easy... Ive been so alone with this pregnancy for all this time, Ive been away from all my friends and family for 3 months now and haven't even had a doc answer any of my millions of questions, but when I talkjed to the clinic the other day and expressed my worries and told her that Ive been watching my vitamin and mineral intake, like how Im anemic and ned iron, and how I make sure I get enuf Vitamin C because it helps the body's absorption of Iron and I get it in the form of juices and fruits and blah blah blah she told me that Im very wise for my age, and have been doing quite adequate research, and that she doesn't come across a mother to be so informed on so many aspects of the pregnancy. I tld her that I just want to be prepared for anything and verything . But Im also looking into working from home, doing something like envelope stuffing or Avon or Jewlery parties or something just to keep me sane and for the extra income... I also need the $ for new clothes as my fiance shrunk quite a bit of my maternity clothes and now we don't even have the $ required for a marriage license ... He never has had much in the way of $, but his job pays well and he was up for a raise... but he told them he has to quit and they were sad... but they say that if and when we move back, he will still have a job there, so I guess thats a plus, right? Sigh... Im so exhausted, emotionally... its been a trying week and I think even the baby knows it... I talk to the baby, reassure her/hom that everythhg is going to be ok and that I love her/him so very very much, I feel better when I feel the kicking, it keeps me focused. And this site has also helped a lot for me... but at the same time, theres still so much thats uncertain, and I can't waste time being worried, I have to stay focused and opptomistic, right? yeah I try my best...

Have you tried going to a planned parenthood clinic? They are usually very helpful and friendly there, and they could at least answer many of your questions. Most also have prenatal care. Look in the phonebook for the clinic closest to you.

and remember to relax!!

I also live in Illinois and WIC pays for EVERYTHING if your financial need is great enough. They even pay for things like prenatal vitamins and formula or breastfeeding materials when the baby is born!

Well, I know theres a planned parenthood only a few blocks from my parents house, Ive been there 2 times before, but the problem I had was they cornered me and started to preach the word of God to me and Im not religious, and they pretty much said that I shouldn't have the baby if Im not praising God... I didn't find them to be all that helpful before, so I doubt things will be any different now. Ive been talking to my family in Chicago to help get me ready and prepared so when I get to Chicago in 8 days from today Ill know what direction to go in. But now they are sayin things like "Do it yourself" and "Nobody can hold your hand thru this" so Im... well, alone all over again. And these were people that at one point were saying that they would pick up an application for Medicaid for me and help me with filling it out before I gotthere... And now they want nothing to do with it... So what the hell should I do now, My husband is an idiot, my parents wanna close their eyes and have this never happen at all, his mom is financially leaning on us, my cousins are bitches, my sisters are in high school and don't really care much because now they both have their own rooms, the clinics turned me away, Im 408 miles away from Chicago and the only think I have is this computer, because I don't even have $ fr my cell so I can't even call places for help now... Im at my breaking point I think, and that scares me. I know we all are facing our own hardships during this, some are young, some are old, some are having twins while others single pregnancies and we're all at different stages. Let me tell you all one thing: I don't wish this upon anybody. The pregnancy part is great. Being alone while pregnant, even when you're surrounded by family that should really care... that makes your soul hurt... I just don't know what to do...

It seems to me that when you rely on anyone they let you down. I grew up with family like that, and friends like that. I went so long doing everything on my own, it gets hard. I know how you feel about people preaching to you, I believe in God, but I am NOT religious. But, I have found that if you do let God "take the wheel", it takes a big burden off. I don't go to church, but my problems, no matter how big, always get resolved. I will be praying for you. You are not alone, we are all here for you. Anything you need, I'm sure there will be someone on here that will be able to help. Good Luck!

thanks to everyone whos been supportive and kind, I really needed it... Ive been crying a lot these last few weeks, and at times I know things will get better, but every corner we turned something happened that made things more complicated. We're still so happy to be upcoming parents, but I just wish things would go smoother for once in my life... I still haven't found a doc or clinic to see me, but we have some doctor friends of the family that have doctor friends and we're seeing if they can help us in any way. Heres hoping for the best! Everyone cross your fingers, rub a rabbits foot, throw salt over your shoulder, say a prayer, or do something that'll help, cuz we definately need all the help we can get!
~<3 J Dobie

NOTHING THIS WONDERFUL COMES EASY. IT WILL ALL BE WORTH IT ONCE THE LITTLE ONE IS BORN. KEEP US POSTED.

Oh trust me, Im aware this is a wonderful thing, but having people just blatantly say NO to me when I ask for even a little help, thats disheartening to say the least. I can't stand the feeling that Im so very alone on this, but ... I digress. I guess things will be alright. ANd hell, at least I have myself to rely on, right? sigh... it just gets so scary... but I found a site that is helping get my mind off the worries... totsites.com... try it out, spread the word, its awesome. Thats all Ive got for now, no news good or bad, and still haven't found a clinic, but Im still looking, so... there has to be SOME hope for me, right?