re: Did you ever fear dying while giving birth?

Quoting Mommyof3inSA:“ That's what I told her, we have a family full of shorties. My mom is 5 ft, my great grandma bless her ... [snip!] ... maybe it could be linked to that, idk, just kinda makes me scared for her, I hate knowing she's scared. She's my baby sister  ”

Could just be the thing that is triggered in over drive by her hormones. I bet she will get over it soon. Let her know that her feelings are normal and that her hormones are making simple "motherly" worries much worse. Tell her that she will be in a controlled environment and that death is not likely. She will have the best Drs and nurses around her as she brings her little blessing into the world.

Quoting New Beginnings ♥:“ my SO woke up teary eyed the other night cause he dreamt i died during birth. I have never feared about it myself though”

Aww! Poor guy. Men are worry warts though, for some reason my husband was great during my first but my second, for some unknown reason, he doesn't even know, when I started pushing he went to the corner of the room and just stood there like a scared lost puppy lol

Quoting Not tellin:“ Could just be the thing that is triggered in over drive by her hormones. I bet she will get over it ... [snip!] ... that death is not likely. She will have the best Drs and nurses around her as she brings her little blessing into the world. ”

Thanks. I hope it helps her. She does have a great dr. She was my dr with my son and I just loved her so much. She was the best dr I have ever had so I know she's in great hands.

Quoting short lil shyt! *T.D.C.*:“ My midwife told me that as well, my mom had 5 c-sections & I was so scared I wasn't going to deliver ... [snip!] ... going to deliver vaginally, but that statement calmed me down really quick & she was right! my babies were perfect size!!”

that's awesome   i like my midwife a lot. did you deliver at hospital, birth center, home??

Quoting *Lyn:“ that's awesome   i like my midwife a lot. did you deliver at hospital, birth center, home??”

hospital. She was a great dr. She's 300 miles away now or I'd have her again. I had pre e with my first and they had to induce me at 36 weeks 5 days, with my second she let me hold off until my actual due date even though I had started showing signs at 38 weeks. I should have listened to her, I went in with pre e already developed but oh well. She was great. Let me walk around, eat and drink light, didn't make me stay on the monitors, she agreed 30 minutes on, 30 minutes off since I was on pitocin. This time I am terrified, I have to do hospital because of my pre e history as well as other health issues and the dr is not my favorite. I have had to tell her 5 times now I am high risk for pre e and EVERY time she says "How do you know? Have you had it before?" Um, yes, read my effing file. She actually had set up an induction for me on the 15th, which is tomorrow, and last week I asked if it could be held off until I HAD to have it and she looked at me like I was dumb. Then she looked at the computer and goes "Oh, yeah we can cancel that" I really wish I could have found a better dr.

gosh im so sorry to hear this maybe take her out and do things she likes to do so it will take her mind off of it for while my mom was only 5 feet and they check you to make sure if yourbig enough to push a baby through there my mom was to small so we came out c section i would tell her not to worrie if theres any chance of her not being able to have it normaly they will give her a c section and everything will be okay

im new to this site. well, at posting anyway. but, i saw this and just wanted to post something. im fairly small framed and only about 5'2. my first baby was only 3 days late & alot bigger than they had expected. he was almost 9 lbs. i was in labor for 17 hrs with 2 and a half hrs of pushing. after he came out i hemorraged really bad and they were running to get blood ready for a transfusion. it was one of the scariest things ever but the feeling i had was like i wasnt scared even though it was a really scary situation. i think i was just too tired and weak. i felt kind of at peace, calm and just kinda weightless. fortunatly, before they had to do the transfusion everything calmed down. thinking back on it i just wonder if the reason for my hemorrage was because my dr seemed really rushed and was pulling really hard on the cord to deliver the placenta. i know that can cause that to happen if its detached by force before its ready. with this pregnancy i live in another town and have a new doctor so im just holding on to the fact that it may have been her fault as to why that happened so im not freaked out this time of it happening again. i actually had nightmares of dying during labor before i ever even got pregnant the first time.

The thought didn't even cross my mind until my sister brought it up. And even then, she was the one that worried about it not me. God made our bodies to have babies so I just trusted the process   It's really rare that things go wrong during labor if you let nature take it's course. Most "emergencies" during labor are actually caused by medical interventions and hospital policies.

I did get a little worried at the end that he wasn't going to fit 'cause my belly got HUGE. I'm really petite (well, before I got preggers I was  ) 5'3 and short waisted so the baby had nowhere to go but out front - he was 8lb7oz and almost 21in long and I was able to push him out without a problem.

haha - found a pic... HUGE

Hi everyone, I am new to this site (no kids, and not pregnant). I am a hypochondriac. I am scared to death of dying or having major complications during pregnancy. I've been married for almost 4 years, and my husband and I want kids soon. I really want to have children (at least one), but I can't get past the fear. At this point, it seems like there is nothing that anyone can say that will make me feel better. I am hoping to make friends here, and find the right info to finally help me move forward and TTC.

Quoting Holz:“ Hi everyone, I am new to this site (no kids, and not pregnant). I am a hypochondriac. I am scared to ... [snip!] ... will make me feel better. I am hoping to make friends here, and find the right info to finally help me move forward and TTC. ”

Hello and welcome! I'm not sure that anything I can say will make you feel better either, except that I gave birth completely naturally outside of a hospital and had absolutely no complications. It may sound contradictory but giving birth in a hospital actually increases your risk of having complications and unnecessary surgery.

There are a couple of books and a documentary that really helped to ease my fears about labor. When it comes to giving birth I think that knowledge is definitely power.

Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
Active Birth by Janet Balaskas
The Business of Being Born <-- this is the documentary, you can watch it on youtube.

hope that helps!

Quoting love my Ethan:“ Hello and welcome! I'm not sure that anything I can say will make you feel better either, except that ... [snip!] ... by Janet Balaskas The Business of Being Born <-- this is the documentary, you can watch it on youtube. hope that helps!”

 
All great suggestions!   I would say the same.

Quoting Sharonblueyes{EBFB}:“   All great suggestions!   I would say the same.”

lol, I actually kind of haunted the natural birth support thread for a couple of months before I gave birth and I got those book suggestions from you. So, thanks!  

Quoting love my Ethan:“ lol, I actually kind of haunted the natural birth support thread for a couple of months before I gave birth and I got those book suggestions from you. So, thanks!  ”

Hehe   You're welcome

Thanks ladies! I will def check out those books. I have been trying to read as much as possible. I too feel that knowledge is power. I know I won't be prepared for everything, but I'd like to know as much as possible, so if it happens, I 'll know what I am supposed to do.

It really makes me so sad that I am so afraid of something that my body is meant to do. And I also feel terrible because I don't know that I can't get pregnant (never actively tried) and some people spend their whole lives trying to have a child and can't. It's selfish. I have to go to the doctor in Dec for my yearly, and plan to discuss some issues with my doc. My husband sent me a txt a few weeks ago asking when I planned to talk to the doctor, that he would come with me. I know he will be there for me, along with my fam, his fam, and all of our friends. I know I won't be alone, I'm just afraid to die. I really do hope I can look back on this and laugh at myself for being so silly.

I'm way more afraid of a cesarian (if I have to have one.) I've heard horror stories about not being able to breathe b/c of the spinal block and about hemorraging. Some days 'm not soscared though.