re: Tandem nursing and nursing through pregnancy chat

I am considering weaning my daughter, it is not something I wanted to do at this point... I had hoped to breastfeed until she was ready to wean on her own. She is 20 months old and I am 29 weeks pregnant. I have no supply and her latch is completely off, she uses her teeth the entire time. I know I will be devastated if she weans, but I really don't know what to do. My husband pointed out that our nursing sessions always start out with me refusing to nurse her, either because she just did, or I can't fathom actually doing it at that moment then her throwing a fit and me finally giving in and end with my screaming or almost screaming "GET OFF OF ME." I wish I had a guarantee she would want to try nursing again after the baby is born, but I know this is unlikely. I am so torn.   Either way this is going to be so emotionally draining on me.

So I had my baby yesterday!!! 30 weeks exactly, he is doing great though. My colostrum is really important now so I'm going to wait for my milk to come in to try to get my almost 3 yr old back on the boob. He has been awaiting the day mommy has breastmilk again for MONTHS(poor kid). I'm so excited!!

Quoting blessed with girls x3:" I am considering weaning my daughter, it is not something I wanted to do at this point... I had hoped ... [snip!] ... the baby is born, but I know this is unlikely. I am so torn.   Either way this is going to be so emotionally draining on me."

well there are a couple alternatives you could try before completely weaning.

you could tell her that the milk is all gone, but that it will come back when the baby is born in a few weeks and she can have some more then.

you could tell her that it hurts mama right now when she nurses, so she can nurse, but only for 10 seconds. then you count to 10. if she throws a fit afterwards and wants some more, i would suggest a distraction.

(that's the short version, of course. I recommend the books "adventures in tandem nursing" and "mothering your nursing toddler". they give good advice regarding these issues.)

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" So I had my baby yesterday!!! 30 weeks exactly, he is doing great though. My colostrum is really important ... [snip!] ... 3 yr old back on the boob. He has been awaiting the day mommy has breastmilk again for MONTHS(poor kid). I'm so excited!!"

aw congrats! 30 weeks though. that's quite early. I hope all goes well.

<blockquote><b>Quoting dream:</b>" aw congrats! 30 weeks though. that's quite early. I hope all goes well."</blockquote>


Thank you! He was 2 lbs 14.8 oz and 14 1/4 inches long.
He's a little fighter though. He only needs a little help breathing and keeping his temp up, and he's already eating a TON of colostrum through a feeding tube.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting dream:</b>" aw congrats! 30 weeks though. that's quite early. ... [snip!] ... only needs a little help breathing and keeping his temp up, and he's already eating a TON of colostrum through a feeding tube."</blockquote>

Oh that's so great!! I'm glad he's doing so well! Have you been able to do kangaroo care with him?

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... tube."</blockquote> Oh that's so great!! I'm glad he's doing so well! Have you been able to do kangaroo care with him?"</blockquote>


Yes! They actually let me hold him before they even brought him up to NICU which I was amazed because everyone said I'd only be able to see him for a second as they wheeled him off. I've also gotten to do an hour and a half every day, including the day he was born. It was only limited because he had jaundice and needed to be under the lights but they turned them off this morning so I should get like 3 hours today!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" ... [snip!] ... he had jaundice and needed to be under the lights but they turned them off this morning so I should get like 3 hours today!"</blockquote>



Oh that's so awesome!
I'm sure it's going to be so great for both of you!

Here he is  
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2442030.html

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" Here he is   http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2442030.html"

He's so perfect!   Congrats!

I am due in another 2 weeks or so and I was wondering if anyone can give me some tips on how to nurse my 21 month old along with the baby? I've nursed throughout the pregnancy . Do I start by nursing them together or by themselves? Will there be enough milk for both? do I need to keep taking prenatal pills? How much milk and water will I need to keep milk supply up? lol ok that's just off the top of my head questions, feel free to add advice please and thank you !

Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" I am due in another 2 weeks or so and I was wondering if anyone can give me some tips on how to nurse ... [snip!] ... to keep milk supply up? lol ok that's just off the top of my head questions, feel free to add advice please and thank you !"

you should get these books. they will answer all your questions and more:

Adventures in Tandem Nursing
Mothering Your Nursing Toddler

but in the meantime:
You can nurse them both at the same time or have them take turns. I find it's usually easier to take turns, plus I hate the actual feeling of them both nursing at the same time (but not everyone is like that). Sometimes it's nice to be able to nurse them both at the exact same time though, so they are both happy. You have to get creative with your positions though! Usually the "double football" is a good one to start with.

Yes, there will be enough milk for both. However, in the beginning, it's important that the baby get the colostrum in those first 2-4 days, so during that time, make sure the baby gets priority.

You can keep taking prenatal pills or you can take a multivitamin or (what I do), take 2 Children's multivitamins (like Flintstones) .. or if you are taking the gummy version, you'd have to take 4, as a normal dose is usually 2. I also add DHA pill and a Vit D pill, but those are optional.

How much water/fluids you'll need varies by person. Just try to stay well hydrated and carry a water bottle around with you everywhere.

Milk is usually supply and demand, so if you continue to nurse both, you should still be making enough milk for both. I am currently nursing my almost 3 yr old and my almost 9m old and I still have people ask me if there is enough milk for both. I find it kind of a silly question at this point.

Quoting dream:" you should get these books. they will answer all your questions and more: Adventures in Tandem Nursing ... [snip!] ... 9m old and I still have people ask me if there is enough milk for both. I find it kind of a silly question at this point."

Hi thanks so much! you've answered me better then the public health nurse did today she actually said she didn't know and that I should look it up. I'll pick up those books as well !

I'm so upset! My almost 3 yr old, who has been begging to breastfeed since my milk dried up months ago, and eagerly awaiting the arrival of his little brother because that means more milk, told me today he doesn't want to breastfeed and acted like it was disgusting  
He was watching me pump and I asked him if he wanted to breastfeed since my milk is coming in and he like cringed and was like "No that's gross". I told him he loves breastmilk, what is he talking about and he said "Don't ask me to do that again".
WTF
He was literally just asking to breastfeed a few days ago!

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" I'm so upset! My almost 3 yr old, who has been begging to breastfeed since my milk dried up months ago, ... [snip!] ... is he talking about and he said "Don't ask me to do that again". WTF He was literally just asking to breastfeed a few days ago!"

aw I'm sorry mama. sometimes that's just what happens. he might still nurse. my almost 3 yr old has also told me "ew yucky" right after nursing when usually he'll still choose my milk over chocolate, so I don't know if it's just a new word he is learning or what. also, colostrum tastes different than "regular" milk, so you might want to wait until your milk has changed.

I would just leave the possibility open and if he wants to fine and if he doesn't want to ... well, that just means he is ready to stop and he's chosen that time. you never know, he might ask again in a month or two!