re: Tandem nursing and nursing through pregnancy chat

Ok ladies, what am I in store for? I have a 2.5 yr old (33 months) that, right now, nurses before bed and since I've been home, before nap too. I'm sure the experience (and the adjustment) is different for everyone but what have your experiences been? I'll also be returning to work after 6 weeks ( )

Quoting MellowMania:" Ok ladies, what am I in store for? I have a 2.5 yr old (33 months) that, right now, nurses before bed ... [snip!] ... adjustment) is different for everyone but what have your experiences been? I'll also be returning to work after 6 weeks ( ) "

Any area in particular you're curious about?

He'll probably want to nurse more, but I found that my daughter didn't get too upset when I limited her to three times per day.

And for us, nursing together made my daughter feel more included, and more excited when we brought my son home. She wasn't at all jealous.

Except now, cuz he touches her toys, lol, but that's different and probably less severe than jealousy for attention.

Quoting Chim Richalds:" Any area in particular you're curious about? He'll probably want to nurse more, but I found that my ... [snip!] ... jealous. Except now, cuz he touches her toys, lol, but that's different and probably less severe than jealousy for attention."

Lol  

I'm just realizing how soon it's going to be! After I realized M probably wouldn't wean before she was born, I kind of stopped thinking about it. Pretty much just want to hear others' experience   Especially right away.

<blockquote><b>Quoting dream:</b>" ~ Leo is 8 weeks today and still EBF, no bottles even! He's only gained about an oz or two in the week+ ... [snip!] ... whoopie!! My supply is fine now, but I still don't leak, so I'm hoping that part sticks around! I could get used to that! haha"</blockquote>




Hey! Gaining at all while you were sick is good. I am sure he will pick right back up. Praying you find a good doctor who will clip that tie

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" Any area in particular you're curious about? He'll probably want to nurse more, but I found that my ... [snip!] ... jealous. Except now, cuz he touches her toys, lol, but that's different and probably less severe than jealousy for attention."</blockquote>




That is when my girls' Jealousy (autocorrect changed that to Jewish) started.

Now, they're the best of friends, literally. Anything Lydia does, Charlotte watches closely and does too. Lydia has even taken it upon herself to start potty training her sister   charlotte can't properly function without Lydia but c has sensory processing disorder and Lydia and I are her safety zone. When Lydia is gone, Charlotte asks for her constantly and looks for her. Her sensory stuff is way worse and she's the only one who can calm her except me. when we go to public places without Lydia, Charlotte is a very different child. She snuggles in to me and doesn't explore as much. She's quieter. Recently she has begun to explore without Lydia. I really really really think the first year of nursing together-especially so much in the first six months or so) did so so much for their bond and is why she views her sister as another safety zone besides me.

That doesn't mean they don't fight sometimes. They're still children ;)

Their friendship has been the most rewarding thing for me as a parent. It's so amazing to see!

<blockquote><b>Quoting MellowMania:</b>" Lol   I'm just realizing how soon it's going to be! After I realized M probably wouldn't wean before ... [snip!] ... she was born, I kind of stopped thinking about it. Pretty much just want to hear others' experience   Especially right away."</blockquote>




When Lydia realized there was milk, she wanted to nurse every single time Charlotte did for a while. That tapered down. She weaned. Hasn't asked to nurse in almost two months. I was ready and evidently she was too.

Quoting Summer lovin':" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" Any area in particular you're curious ... [snip!] ... They're still children ;) Their friendship has been the most rewarding thing for me as a parent. It's so amazing to see!"

I didn't know that Charlotte had SPD. What areas does she have trouble with?

I think A does too. I finally brought her to the doctor on Thursday cuz I feel like I'm drowning. The doctor said she obviously has major sensory issues (her exact words) and referred us for occupational therapy.but I will wait to hear it from them because her pediatrician isn't a specialist.

Now I feel stupid for ignoring it for so long. She's very sensory seeking though so ive just been telling myself she's just a kid being a kid. But lately her behavior has been outright concerning and that's why I brought her in.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" I didn't know that Charlotte had SPD. What areas does she have trouble with? I think A does too. I ... [snip!] ... myself she's just a kid being a kid. But lately her behavior has been outright concerning and that's why I brought her in."</blockquote>




She just got diagnosed. She is auditory defensive, tactile seeking, and she seems to seek proprioceptive as well. We haven't done a full sensory profile yet, its based on her psychologists and my observations. I'm looking for an OT trained in S.I and certified. A lot of them work in school districts and are on break so I'm having difficulty. She nurses like a newborn (actually more than most) because it's her only means of soothing. She is also orally seeking. She licks things.

It hadn't affected her development so I kind of let it go (I tried to get her tested by early on-an early intervention program here in mi for under 3. But they said they couldn't since she's developmentally on track) until it began affecting her socially. She doesn't play well with others. So, Lydia was seeing a therapist about her grief issues and I mentioned to her I was concerned about Babykins because she had been pulling her hair out the night before and laughing. This was after being around her for 1 and 1/4 appointments and the therapist said, "yeah, I was going to ask if you'd had her diagnosed yet."

Soooo... Here we are lol looking for an OT.

Quoting MellowMania:" Ok ladies, what am I in store for? I have a 2.5 yr old (33 months) that, right now, nurses before bed ... [snip!] ... adjustment) is different for everyone but what have your experiences been? I'll also be returning to work after 6 weeks ( ) "

my son was 26m when I had my 2nd. He basically wanted to nurse a LOT when I got home from the hospital. That lasted for a few weeks and then I was able to cut him down to just a few times / day. He's 28m now and we are down to just nap times, although he does ask more often. I'm considering weaning for my own reasons though, so right now, I'm only doing naps until I decide for sure if I want to let him nurse more or not.

There was no jealousy or anything though, with the baby and I think the nursing definitely helped that. I found actual tandem (nursing at the same time) nursing to be more difficult than I anticipated, so that made things a little harder since I couldn't just nurse them together when my older one wanted to nurse.

Quoting Summer lovin':" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" I didn't know that Charlotte had SPD. ... [snip!] ... the therapist said, "yeah, I was going to ask if you'd had her diagnosed yet." Soooo... Here we are lol looking for an OT."

We had an OT recommended through the community center, they do it through the early childhood program. A licks things too. It doesn't affect her though, she plays fine with others and is also developing normally, which is why we waited so long. Shes spending increasing amounts of time doing things like hanging upside down and babbling for long periods, and like I said she licks a bunch of really gross stuff which worries me. She still cant sit still at all and her carseat straps are fraying because she fights them so hard.


I also now believe that's why she sleeps so poorly.

What grief issues is she being seen for if you don't mind me asking?

Charlotte doesn't properly respond to pain, though she's starting to figure out the socially acceptable responses and overusing them (crying big tears when a cat rubs her) so that's a safety issue. As is her beating up other children relentlessly.

Lydia was being seen because after my grandma died in late April, she was having a hard time. She was having some behavioral issues that were controlling our lives. I'm not equipped with coping mechanisms for grief so I didn't feel I could teach her. So I sought outside help and this psychologist has been such a godsend to us! She's super pro-ap and currently is testing Lydia for her learning style, strengths, weaknesses, and iq to help me plan a curriculum. She believes Lydia would be best served homeschooled which is our plan anyway. So she is helping with that. The grief stuff is pretty well worked through.

Charlotte doesn't properly respond to pain, though she's starting to figure out the socially acceptable responses and overusing them (crying big tears when a cat rubs her) so that's a safety issue. As is her beating up other children relentlessly.

Lydia was being seen because after my grandma died in late April, she was having a hard time. She was having some behavioral issues that were controlling our lives. I'm not equipped with coping mechanisms for grief so I didn't feel I could teach her. So I sought outside help and this psychologist has been such a godsend to us! She's super pro-ap and currently is testing Lydia for her learning style, strengths, weaknesses, and iq to help me plan a curriculum. She believes Lydia would be best served homeschooled which is our plan anyway. So she is helping with that. The grief stuff is pretty well worked through.

Quoting Summer lovin':" Charlotte doesn't properly respond to pain, though she's starting to figure out the socially acceptable ... [snip!] ... best served homeschooled which is our plan anyway. So she is helping with that. The grief stuff is pretty well worked through."

Sorry to hear about your grandma, my children haven't been through a loss, I wouldn't know what to do either.

She sounds great! Our doctor referred us to a psychologist as well but I don't know if both are really necessary? I think I need a psychologist more than arri to help cope with everything, like if I could just be the perfect parent and know what to do, we wouldn't have issues anymore.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" Sorry to hear about your grandma, my children haven't been through a loss, I wouldn't know what to ... [snip!] ... to help cope with everything, like if I could just be the perfect parent and know what to do, we wouldn't have issues anymore."</blockquote>




Don't let yourself believe that lie for one minute!!!! The psychologist is working on some of the emotional/behavioral stuff that comes with SPD. She is making sure treatment is going how I want it.

Right now we are working on labeling feelings. Lyd did this at like 12 months and c is really having a hard time grasping the words. So the psychologist is doing books and puzzles with babies having different feelings and we are working on that. Charlotte has these insane meltdowns that only stop with nursing. We are working on prevention of those big meltdowns that does not always include me staying one step ahead of her like I've done her entire life-actually the amount I do to prevent them is why it isn't as obvious to other people. I've known she has this a while and have been doing what I can for it-including making all environments as catered to her as possible as soon as we enter them. Looks like helicopter parenting to some people but we spent a weekend on vacation with my parents and my mom was like "wow...she has some sensory issues meg. I guess we don't see them when you go home at night because that's when all of it comes out." it's very true that it comes out at night. I work at getting things so she's properly stimulated at all times but she still loses it at night if she's even a bit over or under stimulated during the day. Sometimes she loses it during the day too.

Um I forgot where I was going oh!! We are also developing cOping tools other than nursing. No CIO for sure but trying to find other things to calm her. Because I can't let her keep tearig my nipples up. THeyre basically just scars anymore lol.

I have some probably stupid questions lol
If I am nursing and have a c-section will I start producing colostrum for the newborn right away?