Quoting Mara:“ we all know BG is a crazy place full of intelligent crazy women (and a select few males) who, for the ... [snip!] ... w/ knowledge and examples of what good parents do -- in every sort of situation, the better off the next generation will be.”
In most cases, I agree with you completely. I try to help many of the younger teen mothers, ESPECIALLY the younger ones, with any questions they have. They do need help and chastising them about what they've already done is a bit on the pointless side.
However, there is a difference between spelling and grammar errors and just plain obnoxious slang. And while I try to hold my patience and overlook it, after awhile, it does grate on the nerves. I try to be as nice as possible when correcting them, but I also am trying to understand their need to spell something as simple as "my" "ma." I understand grammatical errors and spelling errors, they happen. My sister is not the best nor the most intelligent person in the world and she doesn't spell very well (or even speak well, for that matter) but she at least tries to sound intelligent. If some of these girls want respect, shouldn't they also show themselves to be adults? You do not have to be intelligent to appear mature or to show yourself as responsible.
I am not defending many of the women who attack these girls, however. I have one in particular girl in here I have somewhat befriended, and she is fifteen years old. She has a lot of questions and though they may not always be intelligent, or may even be common sense questions, I answer them because she's asking out of a need. And I saw her get attacked the other day just because something surprised her. And it isn't fair, that you are completely right about.
I like going to the teen forums because I was a teen mommy, I've been there, done that, and I feel something for many of these girls, a need to nurture them, to help them figure their own way out during their pregnancy and early motherhood. So, hopefully many others feel that way as well and there will be less criticizing. Somehow, though, with all of the pregnancy hormones flying everywhere, I doubt it.