re: leading by example

lol well i couldve done a lot better at specifying who i was talkin to.. lol !!

i totally agree with this! being 18 myself, and being pregnant helps me understand this post even more. When i first joined i posted a topic on how i previously had an abortion at 15 and the response i got from a certain member nearly had me in tears! i was looking for advice and support and instead i got mocked. Its nice to see some people actually caring for the younger generation and being there for them when obviously no one else is or they're scared.

Quoting Mara:“ ah, i know... i post something like this ever year or so, just to remind everyone to be a little nicer ... [snip!] ... of them desparately need suport and some form of basic mentoring, especially those who receive NO help from their families.”

I love this post. I was on a forum back last year and found out I was pregnant. I had unprotected sex (no condom, was on the pill but didn't take it religiously)/ I was 17 and scared. My parents are super strict and I came to the gurls on that forum for advice. Almost all mocked me, calling me stupid and telling me I was lying. When I had the miscarriage I told the few girls who were there who supported me and the rest of the gurls on there made jokes about me miscarrying, laughed at me, so I left that forum. After that the miscarriage brought me into a depression stage, and a few of the girls whom I added on facebook told me that the gurls on the forum were STILL talking about me, saying how stupid I was, I should have aborted the "fake baby", and that they were making jokes about my miscarriage. As much as people don't think words hurt, they do. Those remarks and comments took my depression too a whole new level. I was young, and came there for help and got insulted and made fun of/

and thank God for the some of us teens that can type very well and decide we like to have people understand what we are saying! go us yay 18 year old literates

im 18 and im not saying that i regret anything but i honestly wish i was on birth control im not ready for this for my life. i had dreams and they are gone. i know whats done is done and i am having this bay whether i want to or not but i tell every one and even my friends it is worth using a condom or being on birth control.

Quoting Mara:“ we all know BG is a crazy place full of intelligent women (and a select few males) who, for the most ... [snip!] ... w/ knowledge and examples of what good parents do -- in every sort of situation, the better off the next generation will be.”

okayy.
so i agree with you on most of your points.
but id like to point out that not all teenage mothers or soon to be mothers are immature, ignorant and uneducated.
im pregnant, and eighteen, which still makes me a teenager. i became pregnant when i was seventeen last year and i ended up losing that baby. but because i did however, get pregnant then, i grew up alot. and now with this baby, it only stresses how much my life is going to change.
im making big changes and not just thinking about whats going to happen tomorrow, im now forced to look weeks, months, and years into the future and plan everything so my baby can have a great life.
so id like to not be catagorized with the pregnant teenagers who are still out staying out all night and going to parties and who have dropped out of school with no educational plans in the future, or any of those women.
but the women who are older then us, and who are vastly more mature, really need to understand also. when youre so young, and there are younger ones then me, and youre in this situation, you really just need support and understanding. teenagers are scared and the ones who have heads on their shoulders are aware of how much they have to change and the things they need to accomplish before their baby gets here. its not easy, and even being 18, im still scared. but i know i need to do what i have to and get things done and not worry about things that dont matter. i have a baby to live for now and i cant just think about myself anymore.
i just wanted to clear things up, because not all teenagers are what some of them make us look like we are. some of us are very mature and are ready to be good mothers, whether we were put in this position by choice or it just happened. alot of us are willing to grow up and i just want to say something for those of us who are.

look teens who come here dont need to be complained at for there spelling. I know its annoying but IGNORE IT!!

I'm SO glad that I read this. If I hadn't, I probably would never get on this site again. I've only been a member for a few days and was attacked by many different women on my post about primrose oil. I'm glad to see that there are some women on here who aren't so judgemental towards a 16 year old who made one bad decision. I came here looking for advice and support from other pregnant women and mothers but instead got called a lot of rude things and my intelligence and maturity was questioned. Thank you to everyone who actually care and are here to help. (:

Quoting Melis♥:" I'm sorry. But I disagree with your statement regarding your comment here. I have seen countless ... [snip!] ... drama themselves. I personally find NOTHING wrong with asking someone not to TyPe LiKe Diis, because it is against the TOS."

but you don't have to make such a big deal out of it .
people should be able to type however they like :p

I honestly wish people read this and put more consideration into these types of things. Not all teens are immature, just like not all adults are mature. I see women leave aboslutely horrid posts here leaving girls crying and driving them out of the site and a good chunk of the time it isn't even other teens. By all means it's teens as well but I see women you expect to be "mature" because of their age, but just the other week women were leaving nasty comments toward me and other teen girls commenting on one of my posts and all the women saying horrid things were over twenty, not even teenagers. People can generally be mean but when girls need to vent or seek help and advice, the last thing they need is other women insulting them and making them feel like dirt. It's completely rude and disrespectful and defeats the purpose of this.
I wish people would put others into consideration before posting some of the horrid things and insults they say

Quoting Melis♥:" I'm sorry. But I disagree with your statement regarding your comment here. I have seen countless ... [snip!] ... drama themselves. I personally find NOTHING wrong with asking someone not to TyPe LiKe Diis, because it is against the TOS."

I can understand when there typing like that but ive had women that have came after me over stupid things such as a women making a comment about how i was delusional and to young to even know my step kids are supposevily older then me just because a dates wrong on a picture. Ive also had people make comments when i say aren't because "thats not proper" Ive also had people question my intelligence because my daughter was sitting on my lap and in a sentence i put th+ere not meaning to my daughter pushed a button. Could i have fixed it yes i couldve but i also didnt realize it until i posted it.

I'm a teenager and pregnant, and Mara I think you're very right. I came on this website to find support for myself. When it comes to some people typing like their keyboard is having a seziure, its a trend. Like anything else. I mean everyone is guilty of following ridiculous trends. It does annoy me when people type like that, but I try to ignore it and remember that at one time, I followed a trend that at one time looked cool, but have come to realize made me look ridiculous. Just let it be.

Quoting Mara:" we all know BG is a crazy place full of intelligent women (and a select few males) who, for the most ... [snip!] ... w/ knowledge and examples of what good parents do -- in every sort of situation, the better off the next generation will be."

Thank you so much! everything you wrote is so true. Thank you for not saying we cant make it and then again just not taking a side on teen pregnancy. You are very right about this website being really the only place I have felt truely accepted.

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Quoting Mara:" we all know BG is a crazy place full of intelligent women (and a select few males) who, for the most ... [snip!] ... w/ knowledge and examples of what good parents do -- in every sort of situation, the better off the next generation will be."

I agree, 100000 %