Public Service Announcement
60309 postsposted 12th Nov '07
This is a public service announcement.
There is no need to continually ask when it is OK to have sex post partum. Your doctor has already provided you with that answer, and it is six weeks.
Your doctor is not an anti-sex nazi, he doesn't sit around and chuckle that he's keeping you from having sex. He says that, because there's a good medical reason to not have sex until you're fully healed post partum. ESPECIALLY if you had a c-section.
A c-section is major surgery. MAJOR SURGERY. You are not supposed to do anything more strenuous for six weeks than pick up your newborn. Why does it not occur to people that SEX is going to be much more strenuous than picking up your baby? Look, we all get horny, but are you PREPARED to have your signficant other tell your new child "sorry mommy died from perforating her uterus stitches, but we just couldn't refrain from having sex!"?
C.
quoteThere is no need to continually ask when it is OK to have sex post partum. Your doctor has already provided you with that answer, and it is six weeks.
Your doctor is not an anti-sex nazi, he doesn't sit around and chuckle that he's keeping you from having sex. He says that, because there's a good medical reason to not have sex until you're fully healed post partum. ESPECIALLY if you had a c-section.
A c-section is major surgery. MAJOR SURGERY. You are not supposed to do anything more strenuous for six weeks than pick up your newborn. Why does it not occur to people that SEX is going to be much more strenuous than picking up your baby? Look, we all get horny, but are you PREPARED to have your signficant other tell your new child "sorry mommy died from perforating her uterus stitches, but we just couldn't refrain from having sex!"?
C.
I have 2 kids & live in St. Catharines, Ontario
1975 postsposted 12th Nov '07
While I understand the general rule is no sex until 6 weeks. My doctor gave me the okay if I was feeling up to it/was no longer hurting. She just cautioned me to go easy (i.e. nothing rough) and to use a condom (for obvious reasons). I had sex at aprox 4 weeks & it wasn't bad or painful.
Just my 2 cents.
quoteJust my 2 cents.
I have 1 child & live in Beaverton, Oregon
15466 postsposted 12th Nov '07
holy poop..hehe i always wait..umm the last part i hope they do read its happened!
quoteI have 2 kids & 2 angel babies & live in California
8501 postsposted 12th Nov '07
I was told as long as I feel up to it I can have sex I was never given a time frame.
quoteI'm TTC since January '07, have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Modesto, California
34069 postsposted 12th Nov '07
lol... so so true.
quoteI'm due June 1st, have 1 child & 4 angel babies & live in Clearlake, California
14992 postsposted 12th Nov '07
Quoting connorsmomma (Sarah):" While I understand the general rule is no sex until 6 weeks. My doctor gave me the okay if I was feeling ... [snip!] ... rough) and to use a condom (for obvious reasons). I had sex at aprox 4 weeks & it wasn't bad or painful. Just my 2 cents."My midwife told me the same thing after I had my daughter. She said once the bleeding has stopped and I felt up to it, sex was just fine. We started having sex again four weeks post partum :-) BUT if your doctor cautions six full weeks, then you need to go that full six weeks!
I have 3 kids & live in Washington
posted 12th Nov '07
Quoting connorsmomma (Sarah):" While I understand the general rule is no sex until 6 weeks. My doctor gave me the okay if I was feeling ... [snip!] ... rough) and to use a condom (for obvious reasons). I had sex at aprox 4 weeks & it wasn't bad or painful. Just my 2 cents."
See, that's different if your doctor tells you so. He's checked you out, he knows your condition. Everyone heals at different rates, this is true.
I just get really pissed off at the ladies who are told by their doctors "wait six weeks", then come here knowing they shouldn't really be having sex, yet they're asking just so they can be reassured about making a "bad" decision.
C.
I have 2 kids & live in St. Catharines, Ontario
posted 12th Nov '07
Quoting C.:" See, that's different if your doctor tells you so. He's checked you out, he knows your condition. Everyone ... [snip!] ... knowing they shouldn't really be having sex, yet they're asking just so they can be reassured about making a "bad" decision.C."lol I totally get where you're coming from. What I don't understand is your doctor comes in to see you before you even leave the hospital and that's usually when they give you your post-partum instructions. So, why the hell do these women come home and after one week, come on here and start asking "When can I...?" kind of questions. Are all of their doctors just stupid and failed to give them instructions???
I have 3 kids & live in Washington
19942 postsposted 12th Nov '07
Thank you C!
Like I said in BWBB. If I had a nickle for everytime someone made a post like that...I'd be effing rich, I swear!
My husband came home on leave when I had my baby...we hadn't had sex since she was conceived. Although I would have LOVED to have slept with him I didn't. I knew that it wasn't worth it.
Common sense yo!
I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Stockholm, Sweden
posted 12th Nov '07
Quoting HIRO McNeenHAH:" Thank you C! Like I said in BWBB. If I had a nickle for everytime someone made a post like that...I'd ... [snip!] ... was conceived. Although I would have LOVED to have slept with him I didn't. I knew that it wasn't worth it. Common sense yo! "Hey, if an army wife can hold out, we all can lol
I have 3 kids & live in Washington
posted 12th Nov '07
Quoting WickedMama:" Hey, if an army wife can hold out, we all can lol"
Hear hear.
C.
I have 2 kids & live in St. Catharines, Ontario
5405 postsposted 12th Nov '07
I'm assuming it's asked a lot because when we are pregnant we are not looking on this discussion board we are in the pregnancy discussion board. After having our baby we come to this one and the question gets asked. Im sure at least once a week it will be asked because there are so many new people coming to this board each week and haven't read the millions of previous posts about the subject because they've been in Pregnancy issuse reading about what are contractions a million times. Not that this is the ONLY thing that gets asked too much, MANY things do just because there are many new people on here and have the same questions as everyone else.
quoteI have 2 kids & live in Minnesota
12563 posts
769 postsposted 12th Nov '07
i dnot see the big deal... the doctors all say the same thing wait 6 weeks.. who cares... some people wonder if they dont have to wait as long... i didnt wiat6 weeks and im still alive.. nothing bad happened to me... you dont have to wait 6 weeks but they recomand "sp" it. so shut up about ti already about it
quoteI have 1 child & live in New York
posted 12th Nov '07
Quoting June07mommma:" i dnot see the big deal... the doctors all say the same thing wait 6 weeks.. who cares... some people ... [snip!] ... nothing bad happened to me... you dont have to wait 6 weeks but they recomand "sp" it. so shut up about ti already about it"Unfortunatly it can cause problems. Maybe that's what happened with you.
I have 1 child & live in Illinois
