re: Public Service Announcement

Quoting June07mommma:" i dnot see the big deal... the doctors all say the same thing wait 6 weeks.. who cares... some people ... [snip!] ... nothing bad happened to me... you dont have to wait 6 weeks but they recomand "sp" it. so shut up about ti already about it"

Nothing bad happens to some of the people who shoot heroin, either.

Again, doctors recommend waiting FOR A REASON. A MEDICAL REASON. Why is it so difficult to abstain from sex for six weeks, especially if you just had major surgery? Do you think the doctors all just got together one day and said "what arbitrary guideline can we choose to piss our patients off?" They say it because there's a damned good medical reason to wait until you are FULLY healed (you might think you're fully healed at, say, two weeks - but just because you feel OK doesn't mean you are FULLY healed).

I'm sorry, but splitting open your uterus and dying from internal bleeding is just NOT WORTH HAVING SEX to me. Sure, that's an extreme, but it's a possibility, and none of the other possible negative outcomes of sex too early after giving birth are nice, either.

The main reason this pisses me off so badly is that since you agree that all doctors tell patients to wait six weeks, yet so many damned women are constantly making posts asking if it's OK for them to disobey the doctor and have sex before six weeks, the ONLY reason they're asking is because they KNOW IT'S WRONG and THEY ARE LOOKING FOR REASSURANCE THAT WHAT THEY'RE DOING IS OK AND SAFE. IT'S NOT.

If you want to disobey your doctor, do it. But don't come here looking for people to hold your hand and tell you it's OK.

C.

Quoting C.:" Nothing bad happens to some of the people who shoot heroin, either. Again, doctors recommend waiting ... [snip!] ... you want to disobey your doctor, do it. But don't come here looking for people to hold your hand and tell you it's OK. C."

Wow...awesome! lol The thing is, no one, absolutely no one, who comes on here looking for advice ever actually goes for the best advice given from the most intelligent person in the thread. No. They are going to do what they want to do and whoever posts what they want to hear first is the advice they go with.

The thing is, why come here asking when a doctor has already informed you that having sex before a specific time is *stupid?* But, hey, if you want to screw up your insides and wonder a few years down the road "Why am I not getting pregnant?" Go for it! :-)

Quoting Cowgirl_Up:“ Unfortunatly it can cause problems. Maybe that's what happened with you.”

LOL

Quoting Meg (amoo2424):" LOL I agree! And, C. THANK YOU! I get so tired of people whining and complaining that they cant possibly ... [snip!] ... you are okay to have sex so soon or have questions call your doctor - none of us can see how your girly parts are healing!"

Sure we can. Next time someone asks, I am going to tell them to sit on a bed, lift their legs up, stretch their vagina wide open and get a really good picture of their cervix...that way we can make an informed decision...lol

For those of you who "think" you can't wait here's some info from babycenter.com on why you should wait:

Can I start having sex before my six-week postpartum checkup?
I've heard that I should wait until six weeks after delivery to have sex, but I don't want to. Is there any harm in starting sooner?
Expert Answers
Laura Fijolek McKain, ob-gyn
There are good reasons for the recommendation not to have intercourse immediately following delivery, whether you've had a vaginal birth or a c-section. The uterus and cervix undergo significant changes during the process of delivering a baby, and they need time to heal. During this healing phase the lining of the uterus, especially the site where the placenta was attached, is susceptible to infection. Intercourse, douching, tampons, and anything placed in the vagina may introduce bacteria, and cause an infection. The flow of lochia, which is a sign that the lining is healing, can last from three to eight weeks. When the lochia flow is no longer bright red, it signals that healing is near completion, and it's probably safe to have intercourse again. However, if you're still healing from an episiotomy or vaginal tear, you'll need to wait longer still.

A vaginal laceration, rectal tear, or episiotomy that requires stitches can take three weeks or longer to heal, depending on the extent of the injury. If you attempt intercourse too soon, not only can you cause yourself pain, you can also disrupt the healing of the wound and possibly cause a rupture that requires another surgical procedure. I recommend waiting six weeks before having intercourse mainly because that's when most women go in for their postpartum exam. At that time your healthcare provider will make sure that your vagina and perineum have healed enough for sex to be safe and pleasurable.

the funny thing is im not here asking if its okay, i was just find not waiting the six 6 weeks. but like i said you are making a big deal out of nothing. so 8 people as the smae question there is nothing wrong with that. thats what we are all here for to help each other out. not yell and say the doctors say that for a reaosn...

It was never a problem for me because I was definitely not in the mood to have sex a few weeks after I had Gianna. It was seriously the last thing on my mind.

But C, you are correct. There is a reason they are telling you to wait and it isnt because they are being vendictive.

Quoting June07mommma:“ the funny thing is im not here asking if its okay, i was just find not waiting the six 6 weeks. but like ... [snip!] ... wrong with that. thats what we are all here for to help each other out. not yell and say the doctors say that for a reaosn...”

No, you may not be asking - but you are giving BAD advice.  You are saying you didnt wait and nothing happened to you, so that must mean it is okay.  Everyone else who is responding to you is trying to point that out.  It MIGHT be okay for some people - but those people are saying that they were cleared by a doctor.  Like C. said - one person may smoke crack and be okay, that doesnt mean that they should encourage others to try it.  Just because you chose not to follow the doctor recommended 6 week rule, you should not encourage other to disregard their doctors since that could put them at risk.



And it is annoying as hell when people post a question when the same exact question is posted right below it.  That is why posts like this happen - if you have a question you should at least check out the first page of posts to see if it has already been answered.  

Bwhahahahaha.

This post rocks C.

 

Quoting June07mommma:“ the funny thing is im not here asking if its okay, i was just find not waiting the six 6 weeks. but like ... [snip!] ... wrong with that. thats what we are all here for to help each other out. not yell and say the doctors say that for a reaosn...”

8? 8?

Try 80,000.

C.

Quoting connorsmomma (Sarah):“ While I understand the general rule is no sex until 6 weeks. My doctor gave me the okay if I was feeling ... [snip!] ... rough) and to use a condom (for obvious reasons). I had sex at aprox 4 weeks & it wasn't bad or painful. Just my 2 cents.”

This is what my doc said to me too... not that we have felt much the urge to attempt since Ethan was born- but we have the OK.

totally agree C!!!

Quoting June07mommma:“ the funny thing is im not here asking if its okay, i was just find not waiting the six 6 weeks. but like ... [snip!] ... wrong with that. thats what we are all here for to help each other out. not yell and say the doctors say that for a reaosn...”

If you want to go have sex before the 6 weeks then by all means do it but don't come in here crying " oh my vajayjay hurts so much, I ripped while having sex!"

You would think that with the constant reminder of a baby, common sense would answer their own question. We waited almost 9 weeks, any time I would get in the mood, shortly later my son would wake up and I would think to myself, That came out of where!?  Sex, no thank you, my vag and body have been damaged enough and I didn't want to damage it more!

Wickedmama: lol I totally get where you're coming from. What I don't understand is your doctor comes in to see you before you even leave the hospital and that's usually when they give you your post-partum instructions. So, why the hell do these women come home and after one week, come on here and start asking "When can I...?" kind of questions. Are all of their doctors just stupid and failed to give them instructions???

My doctor Never came and saw me before I left the hospital, and I was never given instructions on when I could have sex. So I guess my doctor is stupid then? I took classes so I know the recomended waiting period of six weeks, but that doesn't mean everybody does. Like others have said everyone heals differently so some may think they are ready before six weeks. You even said in another post that you had sex at 4 weeks. Get off your soap box and stop attacking people for asking a simple question.