Boyfriend **Rant**

Ok here's my sitiuation.... My boyfriend (Jim) has an ex that was a piece of sh*^ mom and girlfriend. Once their son (Eric) was born she would go out all hours of the night and take Eric to bars and never do anything around the house. One time she put Eric in a swing in the livingroom and went to sleep with the bedroom door shut! Jim comes home and finds him in the swing hungry and a overloaded diaper!  Well anyway enough about that. Here's my problem... I think I have proved too much that I am a better mother than his ex was. The reason I say this is cause Jim doesnt do anything anymore. I know right now he is the only one who works but I work too. Our baby (Michael) is very colicy right now I dont know what is causing it but I am up almost all night with him. Then have to do all the feedings during the day too along with all the housework. So you know what is falling behind... the housework. We have clean clothes that needs to be put away and the apartment needs to be picked up badly. I just can never find the time. Between taking care of Michael and trying to get sleep when I can everything else goes to hell. Not to mention that Michael and I come second to Eric. Then when we have Eric (we have him everyother week) I get volentered to take care of him too!!! I dont get asked anymore! I just dont know how to tell him that I can't take it anymore. I am so stressed out right now that I get 3 or more migrains in one day. Some days it gets so bad that I feel like just packing up and leaving with Michael of course. To top it all off Eric acts like he has got a cold and everyone keeps tryin to deny he has one so I can take care of him and Michael when they know that if Michael gets sick he could end up back in the hospital (he's a preemie and just got out of the NICU on Oct. 26th). Jim got kinda upset at me tonight cause I told him that if Eric isnt better by his days off that they will have to hang out at Jim's mom's house till he is better cause I dont want Michael to get sick. It's like no one except me cares about Michael and his well being or the house being kept up. What can I do? I cant take much more! Jim is one of the types that if I meantion this to him he will blow a gasket. He just gets upset too easy. Of course I am the same way. If I meantion this to him he will blow then I will (or I will end up crying which upsets him even more)and it will end up really bad.  I am so lost I just dont know what to do.

I feel so sorry for you - I have no advice to give as I am stumped. I would care for little Michael first and foremost since he is in a delicate situation being preemie. I hope it all works out for you.

Well if you can't talk to him, then I have no advice 

OOOOORRRRRR...you could tell him that you need a break from him...then he will ask why...then explain the situtation...that way it's not like you actually brought anything up!!! hahaha...I know this is dumb...but ANY tip is better than NO tip, right??