re: JMM Reunion

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lani+3 JMM:</b>" Hey girls, sorry I havnt updated anymore, i've been feeling really down since Lilly arrived. I know its ... [snip!] ... get upset.... I just wanna feel normal again and enjoy my baby girls first days of life and not think of these things anymore."</blockquote>

Ohhh sweeti sorry to hear u are having a rough time, maybe u r just overwhelmed right now, I mean between a preschooler a toddler and a newborn and lack of sleep u have a lot on ur plate so my suggestion is, try to take time out for yourself. Like have ur mom or ur man take care of the kiddos and take a bath or go out for coffee for a little bit, just do simple things for urself. That may help. Try it. And don't put too much pressure on yourself. So what dishes pile up or laundry isn't done, u will get to it when u can. Just enjoy the kiddos and the rest of the household can take a back seat. Good luck.

Awe Lani! It sounds to me like everything you're saying is exactly the baby blues... Sounds like you have a slight case of PPD :/ can you let your doctor know? Maybe they have some suggestions... your hormones and chemicals play a HUGE part in how you feel.... so it could just be some kind of imbalance. You've had a LOT of transition in the last couple of years and she kind of represents the end of all that ya know? Sometimes when things change so often.. we get comfortable with that... we get comfortable with knowing nothing will always be just the way it is... now maybe things are settling down and what you see now... is IT.. is what life will be for a while - and that can be scary - as joyful as it is... it can be scary and upsetting. And you've gotta do what Helen said - Take a little "me" time...
I still only have 1... and I certainly need that!! just my internet time this morning - brooke is at grandmas last night and today - and I got to get up and get ready for work without having to get her breakfast and get HER ready for the day and out the door to the sitters.... now I"m sitting here... all ready to go - with 15 minutes left! You know how amazing that feels??
Its rare... and i'm sure with 3 little ones now its even more rare! So do it! TAKE the help - dont feel bad asking for it - and go take 15 minutes alone. Even if its to sit outside (away from the kids so they aren't calling for you  ) and just think! or even cry - sometimes you just need your own time.
Or go get coffee.... people watch... do something that is for you... it will help, and by golly - get some sleep! Your bonding time will come naturally with her... dont force it. I remember feeling guilty because I didn't suddenly feel that "OH MY GOSH I"VE NEVER LOVED SOMEONE SO MUCH" feeling after brooke was born. i jsut felt like - okay - here she is.. I already felt like i knew her... of course I loved her... but I wasn't all over the top the way I THOUGHT I should be...... And the fact is - nothing is normal, nothing IS the way it should be... You are you - and teh way you feel is a natural corse of what your body is doing and the environment you're surrounded with. Make some positive changes... take your own time, eat some healthy food, drink some water and flush your body a little - it will help! and in a few weeks, you'll start feeling better   ! And feel free to vent in here   We may not all reply all the time, but I know we're all here lurking!
Sorry I haven't chimed in much myself lately! Just been SO busy! Still cathing up with editing. Garrett and I are working on our budget trying to take care of things so that we can start saving for big stuff   Excited to get a handle on fiances like never before   We're doing the "Financial Peace University" thing by Dave Ramsey - and its pretty awesome. Its a lot of work But I"m super thankful Garrett and I are doing it together! Putting Brooke back in full time preschool - its the best program around and I LOVE it, our share of cost isn't too bad. and it'll be full time child care also since we're both pretty much working full time now - and its only going to be about 200 a month I think... which is pretty amazing for FULL TIME CHILDCARE and AMAZING preschool education.
  Can't believe in just a few short years these kids will be in KINDERGARTEN
Hope you're all doing well! Congrats on the kiddos to Kristy and Lani and hope you preggos are doing well  
We're officially TTC now - and Demanding a boy.. lol Garrett wants a boy so bad! and if we end up with another girl he said hes not having more. He doesn't want to chance having 3 girls... If we have a boy - then he said - he doesn't care if we keep going after that  
Anyway - Gotta grab something to eat then head off to work  
Talk to you all later! Much love  

Thanks for listening ladies, i am starting to feel better and enjoying my princess more and more, ill update properly when i have more time, just wanted to say i love you all and im glad i can vent to people that understand!

http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2315346.html
Heres my labour story  

Sweet video lani   haven't read the story but I'm sure I will   hope your moods and heart are healing  

Lani loved the story and vid  

I have been gone im sorry. been lurking tho  

Hope all you ladies are doing well!  

http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2319862.html

just incase you ladies wanted to know  

*strolls in with a prance*
Just in case you'd like to know..... (sorry Jojo - just used your line... dont mean to steal your thunder. good for you and your 30DS! Thats great progress for just 10 days!)
Is my Eggo Preggo?!?


Bam. Officially TRIED this month - and it worked great   keeping it on the down low down low.. well you all know the deal with that  

Quoting Valisa {J.M.M.}:" *strolls in with a prance* Just in case you'd like to know..... (sorry Jojo - just used your line... ... [snip!] ... TRIED this month - and it worked great   keeping it on the down low down low.. well you all know the deal with that  "

ooh yaya! i am very happy for you guys! sending sticky and boy dust your way!!      

Hey Hey Ladies!
I forgot how busy life can get with a newborn.  
How are my preggers feeling? (& this includes you Valisa) Congrats on the baby!! & I hope there's a boy theme this time around  
Congrats again Lani on miss Lilly-Jade, she is so precious!
&Jojo I totally see a difference! Keep it up, your doing a great job  
As for us Charlotte is starting preschool on Tues! I feel so anxious about it I never left her with strangers before. Hopefully no meltdown *fingercrossed*
As for my little princess Audrey, she is a dream boat! I can't believe how in love I am with her. & I really don't want to go back to work  . But luckily it's only 3 days a week so maybe it won't be so bad.
As for me I'm doing pretty good. I'm just really battling with myself over EVERYTHING! I am really hoping I don't I a mild case of PPD but I kinda think I do. & it's putting a strain on my marriage. I am really starting to resent my husband & somethings are out of his control. I just hope I don't ruin our marriage. The poor guys really has to dance around what he says to me, b.c one wrong thing I flip & hold it against him. I just don't know what to do.
I think the whole root to the problem is that I really don't want to go back to work   but there is now way around it & I have to, Oh well.
Thanks for listening  

Quoting Jesekahh:" Hey Hey Ladies! I forgot how busy life can get with a newborn.   How are my preggers feeling? (& ... [snip!] ... that I really don't want to go back to work   but there is now way around it & I have to, Oh well. Thanks for listening  "

Thanks hun I am trying been depressed with who I am so I thought I would change that. Just no my body but as a girlfriend and as a mom. Its one step at a time but I am doing it.

I had a case of PPD after Konner. I never talked about it to anyone I took everything and anything out on Dan he could just look at me and I would get pissed off and him. And that was why we broke up in 2010 after I had Konner. I am not saying that will happen to you I just am saying maybe you should talk to someone about it or vent on here anything to help keep it from coming between you and your DH. I think the hardest part and the reason I didn't talk to Dan about it was cause I didn't think he would understand. After we got back together I told him about it and he of corse said I should have gotten help which I wish I would have. But here we are on the 3rd baby and together and happy so it worked out but still it was hard when it wasn't working out. With Harlee I felt PPD comeing on so I desided to stop it. Just woke up one day remembered what it did to me in the past and decied to be happy and let it all go out the window   best thing I did. I hope things work out for you hun   xoxo

Hi mamas how is everyone? Valissa yay for ego being preggo, that sure was fast hi? Happy for u chika.

Lani, nice story and video. I been slacking taking belly weeks with this pregnancy. With Ada it was everyweek now I haven't done one since week 20 and I'm 29 weeks today.

Jess, glad u enjoying being a mother to two but ya like jojo says, get help if u feel u have PPD. Good luck mama.

Jojo, keep up the good job girly!

Krissy, mother of being two keeping ya busy hu? Update us on lil baby and Nicky boy soon.

Rose, how u hanging there girly?

As for me, all is well. Just tired. All. THE. Damn time. Sleep is hard to come by and no matter how much I get it's not enough. Eh. Sucks but can't complain tks God I'm still pregnant and all is well, so ya. I just realized too, guess im the one that's expected to pop next right, and after me in a couple weeks it ROSE! ;)

Thanks girls  
Your right Jojo, I think I should come on here more often. It does make me feel a little weight off my sholders knowing that it can happen to anyone. I am lucky to have Rob, he is very understanding. I just hope I can feel normal again towards him.Maybe it doesnt help up "romanticly" since we havent been together for 15 weeks !!!
And for you ladies who have 2 or more kids, when did you feel comfortable to go out with both kids. B.c I get all anxious just thinking about going out on own with them. I;m so scared something bad is going to happen.

Just popping in real quick to say hi!

Valisa, congrats girl so happy for you!!!!!!!

Helen you need to post an updated photo of ada and a belly pic!

Jesse, I was feeling the same for a while after Lilly-Jade was born but got over it pretty quickly, I still get sad sometimes but am much better, if it hangs around have a chat to your doctor. Take some time to yourself too  

Jojo, you are doing awesome, I did the 30ds too after dominic and didnt get much out of the first 10 days but lost quite abit after the 30days, just stick to it.

So I sure am enjoying my little miss alot more now that my moods have settled down, I think I just got a huge hit of hormones this time round and felt really overwhelmed with it all, I still really miss being pregnant with her but I love having her here at the same time, and im so ready to get my body back and im honestly looking forward to watching her grow up, I have no desire for anymore babies anytime soon, maybe in the distant future but for now Im all set.