The Further Along I Get...

The more depressed I seem to feel about being a single mom. I know that it's for the better and that there are great single parents out there that have raised great kids. its just i always promised myself that i would make sure my kids would have both their parents in the same house. mainly because this is what i always wanted growing up. i hated having seperated parents and i would go to my friends houses who had both their parents together and i wanted to have that so bad.


and great now after i type all that i have to leave to get my car fixed.

anyways, a little encouragement or advice from other single moms, or just anybody would feel really great.

You will do great. Honestly the most important thing to your baby is not having both parents together, it is living in a safe happy environment. Don't worry about not having a man around for your baby. It's not what is important!

I'm not a single parent, but my mom is. Shes raised me and my brother very well. I'm not a model child but I do have my head on straight. You can do it just keep your head up.

I know we haven't always seen eye to eye on things, but I also hated the fact that my parents were separated. After growing up and being able to see things for myself, I'm actually happy that my mom found someone for her and let my dad go into his own separate ways. You shouldn't feel bad because some single parents do it better than those who have both parents present. I'm sure you'll do just fine.  

Awww mama you'll do awesome! Sometimes both parents aren't that good..sometimes mommy alone is enough  

I was raised by both parents till my Dad died 2 days before I turned 12. Then it was just me my mom and my sister. We all turned out pretty good  

Now, I am a single mom... and although I dont know your story... it sounds like situations may be similar in the respect that I am much better off without him, and Kailyn is too! Its not easy - but it is the most rewarding experience EVER. I LOVE having my little girl all to myself. I got to name her without having to clear it with anyone else, I get to make all the decisions for her, I can ask for advice but I dont have to take it. It is hard because there is no one to help with feeding her in the middle of the night, or giving my arms a rest when they are tired but she NEEDS to be held - or "worse" lifted up and down and up and down... But then she gives a little smile, or a coo, or she is sleeping so sweetly and NOTHING else matters. It is scary, and at the hospital I decided I wasnt ready and couldnt do it... but I have never been happier.

Right now my life is about HER. I have no desire to do thinks for myself yet... but, there is no telling when Mr. Right will make his appearance. Just because I am not with her father (or you with your lil'ones father) does not mean that there will not be a "dad" in our children's lives. Genetics determine who is the biological father, they dont make a man a daddy!

When I get   about being single I think about this song by Terri Clark, "She didnt have time" its cute... or a song by Reba McEntire, "somebody." They give me hope  

It is going to be amazing when you are holding your baby in your arms. You will be a wonderful mommy!! And you have hundreds of mommies here to help you when you need it! I, for one, am just a PM away!  






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I'm not single now, but i was for a long time with my 7 y/o. Its not easy, I won't lie, but what does make it easier is surrounding yourself comfortably with friends and family. Don't be shy about asking someone to come and watch the baby while you clean, run errands, take a nap or grocery shop. Having the extra pair of hands in the house is like a weight lifted off your shoilders. I tried to be totally independant with her, but I had to surrender to some loving help from my family. I didnt think they would be, but they all were more than happy to help. Another thing i always tried to do, cheesy as it may sound, is find or do something daily that made me smile. No matter how tired I was, I did what I had to do to keep my spirits up. Good Luck and enjoy being a mommy. Nothing compares  

keep your head up momma, now you will have someone to love for the rest of your life!
i know being a single parent is never really planned, but at least your baby will have all of the love in the world, and that is all any child could ever ask!! Dont worry, you'll be fine with out him!  

Thank you guys so much!!

It felt so good being able to come home and read all the positive things you had to say.  

awe. im goin to be a single parent and it does sometimes suck and i think about how i didnt grow up with my father. But i look back, and i know my dad know, and how much of a douch bag he was and how what my mom did was the right thing!!! She did everything for me and my sister...and i could love her more. And i know that i would do anything for my daughter and if her father isnt man enough to stand up and take care of his family, then I KNOW im strong enough for the both of us!!

** be strong mama...im here if you need to talk...i love getting to know knew people!!**

HUG&&KISSES!

thanks- my guess is ill probably feel a lot better about it when shes actually here.

Stolks wrote: Thank you guys so much!!

It felt so good being able to come home and read all the positive things you had to say.  

*hugs* <3

I was glad that my parents broke up. I was furious that they had stayed together for me. It just made me feel guilty and miserable because they were always fighting. I would've been perfectly happy with them seperating as long as I got both parents in my life. Even if I did end up with just my mom in my life afterwards. I can't say I was happy with that, but htat's because of extenuating circumstances. But if I hadn't had to take care of my mom, I would've been happy because she loved me, did things with me, and would've given me the world, had she had it to give.

My point is, She'll love you no matter what! Even if she is upset about it as she gets older, She eventually realize that what you did is for the best. Not just for you, but for her life as well.

I was a single mum for 2 years and then I met Tony... It was hard but at the end of each day I had the reward of her looking up to me and having the satisfaction of knowing I did it by myself. And that is the biggest self esteem booster!!! I am proud of my time as a single parent and I believe it has helped me become a better parent to my other children too. Good luck. I am positive that you will do an awesome job! Just dont let the stereotyping get you down!