Quoting Adoption is Awesome:" EDIT NOVEMBER 2011 - UPDATED RESOURCES This thread is to provide support for adoptive parents or parents ... [snip!] ... - An excellent overview on the types of adoption scams. Myths about adoption - A nice article about the truths of adoption."
I wanted to share with folks that I was adopted as an infant. My husband and I always considered adoption as an option for our family, but felt it would be a 2nd or 3rd child in our lives vs. the need to pursue it prior. After our 4th miscarriage we signed up with DSS adoption services (free homestudies you can use for private agencies later, if you choose private agencies and mostly free adoptions if matched). To assist in self-promotion of our desire to adopt, I created a website in an effort to attract potential birth parents ourselves. I also sent packets around to various agencies and doctors offices about our desires to adopt. We have always been open about our desires to become forever parents.
After our 5th miscarriage, we signed up to become foster parents. Through this experience and throughout my life I have been open regarding my adoption and how parents can talk with their children about adoption. While a part of the foster parent association for our county, I became a contact person to help families incorporate the concept of their child being adopted and how to approach and discuss such topics with the child as a family. From that I began talking at crisis pregnancy centers and at a private adoption agency. In spring, 2011 we were blessed with a newborn foster child who we hope to adopt one day.
In November, while speaking with a (then) to-be birthmother about adoption and her feelings surrounding her decision and how to search for an adoptive family, we were asked if we would adopt her child-to-be. While a difficult decision and one I never thought I would ever be in the position to have to make, we decided our committment needed to remain to the child we were currently fostering and trying to adopt and instead united another foster-to-adopt family in our community with this birthmom. Their daughter was born in December, 2011.
My point in this is to share that you can self promote yourself in many ways and eventually can be linked with a family looking to place their child for adoption. It just takes openness, patience and time.
Ideas, we did: Create a website (weebly.com offers free versions), create a facebook page and promote it to your friends offering updated adoptive topics etc, register with DSS adoptions (if for nothing less, to get a chance to adopt a child for nearly free and also to get a free homestudy -- savings to you), research the private agencies you choose (some dont reimburse for birthmom expenses if moms back out last minute etc. which can get quite expensive), PROMOTE-YOURSELF. No one is going to be a better advocate than you, for you, to create your forever family. And lastly, trust in God. If this process has taught me any thing it is that things truly will happen in God's time and in God's way. Believe that! I wish you all well!