Husband's stupid family insists on a "K" name

My husband's family mostly all have K names and he insists we continue the tradition.

It's not that I don't like names that start with "k." The thing is if we were having a boy, we already had tons of K names I liked: Kolby, Keaton, Karter, Kourt, etc.

But, we're having a girl and now all those names I've loved since I was a kid are thrown out the window because we have to follow this STUPID tradition. My sister in law and brother in law in fact keep making sure we're going to in fact name her with a K. (IT'S NOT THEIR KID!!!)  

My husband and I have been arguing about it for oh, 25 weeks now (I'm 33 weeks along). I want to name her Annaleise Susan and he wants to name her anything that starts with a K. (Oh- and we can't reuse any of the 36 "K" names that have already been used in the family.) I worry if this is my only daughter I'll ever have, I want to have a name I love.

Today my husband and I agreed on Kayleigh Annaleise but I want to call her Annaleise (or at least "Aleise") and have everyone else call her that too. Then, we've met his family's stupid tradition of a K first name but I also get the name I want to have too.

He is not cool with compromising and expects that he and his family will still call her Kayleigh. It infuriates me that I have to give up my wishes for his family when I'm the one who's having her. What do you guys think?

Thanks for listening.

I know what you mean. Honestly I think having everyones name start with the same letter is kinda stupid. Not to be rude but, I do.

I'm 20 wks 1 day and hubby and I still do not have a name for our daughter. He wants Emily but, we already have an Elliot and again, I just can't stand using the same letter twice. On top of Elliot and Emily is just o cutsie it makes my teeth hurt.

I wanted Kaileen (K-eye-leen) I thought it was beautiful but, hubby didn't agree. I know it's not Analiese (which I love) But, I think it has the same feel so, if you want to use it I wouldn't have my feelings hurt. At least one pretty little girl would get to have my favorite name.

I honestly have no clue what we are going to name her and that really hurts because if I can't call her by name now I almost don't feel quite as attached to her. We had our sons name picked out in a matter of a week or two after finding out we were pregnant. Infact we were bot so sure it was a boy we called my belly Belliot my entire pregnancy.

best of luck with the name and the inlaws.
god knows I need some too  

I love that name Annaleise, it is very pretty. You do realize that you are the one that gets to name her at the hospital and put the name down for the birth certificate not the father or the in-laws. I would go with what you want and tell them that you are the one carrying this precious gift and you are the one that will be going through the labor. You also have to think of how she will feel when she grows up and might be pressured to name any of her own children with a 'K'. I feel for you, but as I told my husband I will be the one naming this child and he can take it or leave it.

that is not always true. They gave my husband the birth certificate. Good thing he got the name right *L*

I always think its best to do what my parents did my Dad named the boys and my Mom named the girls. Of course they went to each other for input but when it came down to it they knew who had the final call.

Thanks for the replies.

I do like Kaileen and always have because it is the name of an ex-girlfriend of my husband's good friend. The problem is that this Kylene ended up going a little psycho and did a few crazy things and so my husband absolutely will not go with that name.  

I could not agree with you more about the names all being matchy-matchy. It's nauseating. I HATE IT. Did I mention that our last name starts with "K" also? My name is Amanda (I go by Mandy) and I asked him how I fit in the picture if we're all supposed to have K names? Of course that's not an issue.

For the second replier, you know you are right about the mother deciding in the hospital!   My mother told me the same thing and I have told my husband, when angry, that I'm going to just do what I want and name her what I want. He doesn't think that's what happens but I've heard otherwise.

I recently told my husband let's go with "Annaleise Kayleigh." He was not happy with that either. I think right now that's what I'm going to keep pushing for. Then if he and his family want to call her by her middle name, they can be the freaks.

I have also told his family I will absolutely NOT be telling my children to continue this tradition. They will have freedom to choose whatever name they love, not being pressured for a letter.

The whole thing is stupid EXCEPT my husband's mother was killed when he was 12 and she continued the tradtion so now he feels like to honor her, we have to also. How do I argue with that? I've tried delicately to be polite but also not give up my wishes for someone who has passed on.

I love the name Kyndall for a girl! Anyway, good luck with your decision. I am also finding baby names to be a very big source of conflict!  

I think that your husband needs to start being a little more cooperative. If you're willing to make the sacrifice to "officially" name her Kayleigh on her birth certeficate but call her Annaleise then he should at least be happy with that. At least you're putting forth an effort to compromise when it seems like he is just being stubborn! Also I think Annaleise is so much more original than Kayleigh, there are so many Kayleighs and Kaylee's theses days, when she gets in school it might be better for her to go by Annaleise. .
When I was pregnant my boyfriend and I argued about the mn for our daughter Shyla. He wanted her mn to be Michelle after my mom (which was flattering) but then his mom got mad and felt if we used my mom's mn then we should use hers (which is Jean). I was not naming my daughter Shyla Jean Michelle needless to say LOL. So we argued about it up until 3 hours before I actually went into labor. In the end I put my foot down, we agreed on the first name but I was using the name I wanted for the middle name. Afterall I was the one that had to carry her for 9 months and push her out! And I did get all of the paperwork at the hospital. I didnt even have to give the baby his last name if I didn't want...so the name should be entirely up to you.
On another note, my friend has a daughter named Alyssa Amaya. The dad picked Alyssa and my friend picked Amaya. Now her half of the family calls her daughter Amaya (as do I) and the dad's half calls her Alyssa and it actually works out well. Also as I was growing up, most people called me Megan but some ppl also chose to call me by my middle name, Amber. I LOVED having "2 names" so maybe you could just call her Annaleise and have the dad and his family call her Kayleigh . Although some ppl might be very against this I think it could work out just fine. As I said, I loved being able to have 2 different names that ppl called me by, and when your daughter gets a little bit older she could always decide which name she likes best.
I would really try to talk to your husband though and try to explain that its not fair that you are willing to compromise but he is not! If he really loved you, you should be able to work SOMETHING out. Good luck !!!
BTW are you looking for some suggestions on "K" girl names or are you stuck on Kayleigh? I really do think that it is a pretty name but it is SO COMMON. Annaleise really is much nicer   . (youre not planning to shorten it to Anna are you?)

i think that you should go with what you want to name your baby after all its not your husbands side of the family that will be raising her. your husband is trying to be sweet honoring his mothers memory but a new life is a time for new traditions and if you dont like a k name then i would go with my gut. and for the one looking for girls names. i had picked out elizabeth rose for my lil girl but found out im having a boy we are naming him hunter matthew

I UNDERSTAND WHERE YOUR COMING FROM WITH THE TRADITION OF THE LETTER K. IN MY FAMILY THE GIRLS ARE IN T AND THE BOYS ARE IN J'S. AS FOR MY HUSBANDS FAMILY HES GOT THE S. AND INDEED WE DID HAVE ARGUMENTS BECAUSE MY 1ST BORN IS A GIRL SO WE DECIDED TO START OUR OWN AND I GET TO NAME THE GIRL AND HE GETS TO NAME THE BOYS!!! SO I GOT TO NAME MY DAUGHTER ZAIYAH PRECIOUS ANELAOKALANI AND NOW THAT WERE EXPECTING A BOY HES EXCITED TO NAME HIM. BUT YEAH ITS NOT YOUR IN LAWS CHILD ITS YOURS SO DONT LET THEM DECIDE FOR YOU WHAT TO NAME YOUR CHILD ESPECIALLY IF YOU DONT KNOW IF THAT WILL BE YOUR ONLY ONE. AND BESIDES I HAVE ALOT OF FRIENDS WITH THEY''RE KIDS NAME IS KAYLEIGH GO ORGINAL THAT NO ONE HAS OR NOT THAT COMMON I LIKE ANNALEISE... OR GO CREATIVE AND MAKE UP YOUR OWN..WATCH THE MOVIE KNOCKED UP ITLL GIVE HIM AN IDEA OF WHAT A WOMANS WORLD IS LIKE.

I personally didnt care what my husband thought of what I was naming our child, even though we had a boy. I carried him for nine months and i was naming him. End of story. Of course he cried, whined, fought and tired to put guilt trips on me but in the end, I didnt want to regret what my childs name was because I gave in. He wanted to name him Dade Murphy after a character off a movie he liked. I wanted to name him Aiden (no specific middle name).

I did however agree to consider his feelings when naming our child and told him he can call him whatever nickname he wanted to. I came up with Dayden Raine and his nickname is Dade which made dad happy.

Of course both sides of the family felt we should name him after someone as most of the boys in both our families are. But he is not their child so there opinion means nothing. If they did not like it that was there problem.

I think Annaleise is such a pretty name and if that is what you are set on then go with your heart. As you said, this may be your only daughter and your only chance. Do not regret it.

It can be overwhelming knowing that your decision is something this little person will have to live with for the rest of thier life. I was lucky in that my husband and I came up with the first name, if its a girl, together and he hasnt really opposed any middle names I have come up with. I think he knows that when it comes down to it, I will name this baby whatever I want to! I have asked him over and over for his input and do take it into consideration but there are certain things Im not okay with. Like taking any advice from either side of our family. I could care less what his mom wants MY child to be named!
Its your baby, hun. Dont let other people make your decision, especially if you will be haunted by it for the rest of your life.

I have always loved the name Kadence or Karli. And I think that your husband and his family should be happy for you no matter what you name YOUR baby. I wish you the best and hope you find the perfect name for your baby. May God bless you and your family (even the in-laws).

It is unfortunate that your husband is unwilling to work together on this issue. I think that this a greater issue that just following his families tradition. I hope that this is not a precursor to future decisions about your children. This is a major decision and really should only be made between you two and not his family. Often when you have a name picked out and that child is born the name dose not fit them. It is really good to have a few to choose from. You will be surprised how your child may or may not fit the name you have chosen. With my kids if the name fit after they were born. On one occasion we change the name completely, the name we had just did not fit her.

Im due nov.15 im having a baby girl and her name is going to be Kaylanee pronounced Kay-LAHN-ee which means "pure".but with the K their is also Krista,Kristina,Kaylee,Kimberly both of my sisters-in-laws name start with K kassandra and Keishliand but we call her keish.If u keep having problems finding a name just tell ur husband to start having a new tradition with a different letter is ur kid so i think u should name her what ever u want not what his family wants...