Welcome!

this is a protected thread, which will be moderated w/ more strictness, firstly b/c it's in S&L, and secondly, b/c this is a very delicate and painful topic to even be broaching.

the rules are fairly simple and can be by-passed if you're a decent human being willing to be kind and supportive or otherwise just walk away if you don't have anything supportive to say.

but for those of you who're unclear about how to conduct yourself, this is it:

1) no second guessing someone's story

2) no attacking and/or negative judgments; this is a safe-haven

3) no one-upsmanship ("oh my story is worse than yours")

4) no posting/sharing any members' story w/out their explicit permission this includes quoting their story. if you do accidentally quote them, simply edit your post when you realize it.

5) if you believe a story is fake, keep it to yourself or contact someone other than the person you don't believe (someone you respect who has experience w/ rape), to avoid drama and unnecessarily hurting them if you're wrong

6) as this topic is about support & healing, please refrain from giving advice to others on self-defense unless explicitly asked for.


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for all of you who are brave enough to share your story, thank you for opening up and letting all survivors know they're not alone in their struggle to overcome the pain, shame, fear, and hurt that such violations cause in all of us. you are an inspiration to us all.

for those of you who're not yet ready to open up, please, feel free to come in, introduce yourself and let others know that you're still struggling, you won't know-- until you try, just how much power you have to start healing yourself.

if you've privacy concerns, but would like to share your story, simply PM me your story and i will post it for you.

I was attacked when I was younger. I barley remember the details, and I barley remember what happened, I suppose from the trauma of being 8 (and then again at 14, and then molested by a girl at 16 <I remember the 16 one ugh>) so I wouldn't be able to 'post a story' like others who remember it clearly, but I would be very, very, very pissed off if someone told me I was 'faking' or told me to go somewhere else because I didn't remember details. =/

Unless, that is, you're talking about people like my sister, who consent to stuff and then claim they were raped because they don't want to get into trouble or something 

Quoting cherokee ☠ mama:“ hopefully everyone will have the same mindset and want to support each other.”

see i never ended up being raped, i got myself out of it, BUT there was one incident when I was 3 i could not get myself out of.
\But i know if i tell people i got out of the others, i will be attacked...

Quoting Saraneth:“ "

I didn't know if that counted as a story so I deleted the quote/

I was drugged.
All I remember was blured faces and me on the bed,i remember every hour the faces changing, and the last face being my boyfriend, the one guy I trusted.
I dont even remember if I had the stregnth to say no.

Quoting ♥Ericka♥:“ yeah..my poor dh...i still have sex issues.... but i really like this idea...I already feel more comfy just being in HERE”

so do I, some women have more sex when raped, some like me hate sex.

I don't even know if mine is a real rape story becvause I was dating him you know

Quoting Oompa Loompa [FAT]:“ I was drugged. All I remember was blured faces and me on the bed,i remember every hour the faces ... [snip!] ... changing, and the last face being my boyfriend, the one guy I trusted. I dont even remember if I had the stregnth to say no.”

If you were drugged it's an automatic no. :O

Quoting Sarah ™:“ I don't even know if mine is a real rape story becvause I was dating him you know”

no means no.
it doesnt matter the situation.

Quoting cherokee ☠ mama:“ thats the thing about my SO. he has the libido of a 15 year old and even though we've been together ... [snip!] ... later he starts feeling me up trying to get something going. im like, wtf, are you smurfing kidding me? didnt i just say NO?”

Mine does that too. =/ I bite him. Works like a charm.

Quoting Never sleep again....:“ see i never ended up being raped, i got myself out of it, BUT there was one incident when I was 3 ... [snip!] ... when I was 3 i could not get myself out of. \But i know if i tell people i got out of the others, i will be attacked...”

3?  

Quoting cherokee ☠ mama:“ no means no. it doesnt matter the situation.”

  

Quoting Saraneth:“ Mine does that too. =/ I bite him. Works like a charm.”

i should have thought about that..

Quoting cherokee ☠ mama:“ 3?  ”

yea but i got out of 2 of them, one i was WAY to young and had no control over the situation...It was not vaginal tho, it was Oral, and that is one of my main reasons i would never give oral. I was 3.

Quoting cherokee ☠ mama:“ thats the thing about my SO. he has the libido of a 15 year old and even though we've been together ... [snip!] ... later he starts feeling me up trying to get something going. im like, wtf, are you smurfing kidding me? didnt i just say NO?”

same here...and I have hit him before just out of reflex... I dunno....

BTW OT...but freddy REALLY scares me!! LOL