re: Words Of Encouragement.

From Where You Are by Jason Wade of Lifehouse.

"So far away from where you are, I'm standing underneath the stars.. and I wish you were here."

Here are the words to the poem...

What Makes A Mother

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true
But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can he replied
With confidence in his voice
I give many women babies
When they leave it is not their choice
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for the day
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this God
I want my baby here

He took a breath
and cleared his throat
And then I saw a tear
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear
My mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here
I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow is where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
Mommy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I am here"

So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lessons are through
And on the day you come home
they'll be at the gates for you

So now you see
What makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth
May not realize
Until their time is done
Remember all the love you have
And know that you are
A Special Mom

Author Unknown

A Letter from Above
Dear Mom,

I know this is a rough time for you. So I will be as gentle as I can be. First of all, thank you for so many tears, particularly those shared with another that you love. They are a gift to me, a precious tribute to your investment in me. As you do your mourning, do it at your pace only. Don't let anybody suggest that you do your grief work on their timetable. Do whatever it takes to face directly the reality of what has happened, even though you may need to pause frequently and yearn for my return. Do this with courage and my blessings.

Know that sometimes inertia is the only movement possible. Give your best to keeping a balance between remembering me and renewing your commitments to life. It's O.K. with me if you go through minutes, hours and even days not thinking about me. I know that you'll never forget. Loosening me and grabbing hold of a new meaning is a delicate art. I'm not sure if one comes before the other or not, maybe it's a combination.

Be with people who accept you as you are. Mention my name out loud, and if they don't make a hasty retreat, they're probably excellent candidates for friendship. If, by a remote possibility, you think that there is anything that you could have done for me and didn't, I forgive you, as my Lord does. Resentment does not abide here, only love. You know how people sometimes ask you how many children you have? Well, I'm still yours and you are still my parents. Always acknowledge that with tenderness, unless to do so would fall on insensitive ears or would be painful to you. I know how you feel inside. To be included as your child honors me. Read, even though your tears anoint the page. There is an immense library here and I have a card. In Henri Nowens' "Out of Solitude", he writes, "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair and confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not healing, and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." Mom and Dad, I don't know where you are spiritually now, but rest assured that our God is not gone. The still small voice you hear in your heart is His voice. The warmth that sometimes enfolds you is Him. The tears that tremble just beneath your heartbeat is Him. He is in you, as I am. I want youto know that I am O.K. I have sent you messages to ease your pain, they come in the form of flowers that bloom out of season, birds singing, voices and visions and sometimes through your friends and even strangers who volunteer as angels. Stay open but don't expect the overly dramatic. You will get what you need and it may be simply an internal peace. You are not crazy, you have been comforted. Please seek out people bereaved longer than you. They are tellers of truth, and if they have done their work, are an inspiration and a beacon of hope whose pain lessened dramatically. And one more wisdom before I close. There are still funny happenings in our world. It delights me to no end when I hear your spontaneous, uncontrolled laughter. That, too, will come in due time. Today, I light a candle for you. Joined with your candle, let their light shine above the darkness. Affectionately,
Your Angel Child

I read this poem at my son's visitation...
A Child of Mine
by Edgar Guest
I will lend you, for a little time,
A child of mine, He said.
For you to love the while he lives,
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years,
Or twenty-two or three.
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care of him for Me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you,
And should his stay be brief.
You'll have his lovely memories,
As solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay,
Since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there,
I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over,
In search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love,
Nor think the labour vain.
Nor hate me when I come
To take him home again?
I fancied that I heard them say,
'Dear Lord, Thy will be done!'
For all the joys Thy child shall bring,
The risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for him,
Much sooner than we've planned.
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
And try to understand.

it got me through the day today brandy camouflage

I'm a work in progress, I'm a seed grown into a flower
I'm a storm that's rising and getting stronger with every hour
And God knows I ain't perfect, tell me who in the world is?
All I know is that I'm searching for somebody to love me with

These flaws I've got, they're all part of who I am
Take me or not, but I finally understand
I'm so done trying to be everything you want
And I have to stop 'cause baby, you ain't worth it
If I gotta camouflage, for love, for love
No, I won't camouflage, for love, for love, I won't camouflage

I need a lot of improvement, not even half way to destiny
But I'm a train that's moving and everyday I'm picking up speed
And God knows you ain't perfect
So who are you to put pressure on me?
That's why I'm still searching for somebody to love me with

These flaws I've got, they're all apart of who I am
Take me or not, but I finally understand
I'm so done trying to be everything you want
'Cause I have to stop, 'cause baby, you ain't worth it
If I gotta camouflage, for love, for love
No, I won't camouflage, for love, for love, I won't camouflage

I've learned from my mistakes
The only way you're gonna be happy
Is if someone's down to take
Here when it's good and it's bad you see
I tried giving half of me, in the end I came up empty
And that's why I'm searching, yeah
For somebody to love me with these flaws

These flaws I've got, they're all part of who I am
Take me or not, but I finally understand
And I'm so done trying to be everything you want
'Cause I have to stop, 'cause baby, you ain't worth it
If I gotta camouflage

These flaws I've got, they're a part of who I am
Take me or not, but I finally understand
And I'm so done trying to be everything you want
When I have to stop, 'cause baby, you ain't worth it
I've gotta camouflage

For love, for love, no, I won't camouflage
For love, for love, I won't camouflage
If I gotta camouflage, 'cause baby, you ain't worth it
If I gotta camouflage
Baby, you ain't worth it, if I gotta camouflage

My husband and I just had our first miscarraige. We found out yesterday that there was no heartbeat, and nature took it's course and we passed our baby today. We are very sad but we have to stay positive for our 2 year old daughter Ava.
I wanted to share a nice link for something that we ordered for ourselves.
http://www.baby-gaga.com/outbound.php?post_id=26934079&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.miscarriagememories.com%2Fservlet%2Fthe-Baby-In-My-Heart%2FCategories

Hey, I thought I'd post this in here and see if maybe some of you guys could help, I'm trying to find a gift for my good friendwho just lost her 7 week old little boy . . .
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about1115103.html

I WROTE THIS POEM THE MEMORY OF MY ANGEL BABYGIRL
MAGGIE ANGELINA HERNANDEZ MAY YOUR SOUL BE IN HEAVEN
SUNRISE 01-01-06 SUNSET 01-05-06

I lost it all in one
i walked in the hoppital,
expecting the good news,
expecting to hear my baby was secure,
growing in my womb,
i didnt hear the heart beat,
i didnt feel it move,
i ended getting worst
expecting the news,
just laying there so helpless nothing i can do,
her father no were no were to be found,
didn't even knew she was around,
a frustration filled with pain,
no where no one to run to,
like a room with no doors,
a hall with o end,
like the bottom of the ocean with no top,
i had to say goodbye,
before i could have said hello,
i wasn't ready to let go,
but now my babyis inheaven,
an angel in the sky,
filled with joy a laughter,
growing as timw goes by,
i look up in the sky and i ask my self why?
you had to take her from my side?
only a teenage mother,
with nothing much to live for,
the day she was made i was made right with her,
the day she left i left right with her,
i looked & looked & still can't find her,
waiting with so much hope,
to hold her & protect her,
knowing & feeling like you just faild your mission,
after losing everything, plus dignity,
still losing every meaning of life
since here first moves,
i knew we were ment to be together,
knowing that no longer be alone,
cause knowing we have each other,
a lover not a fighter,
but willing fight for what you love,
willing to give up everything for what you are,
a single parent with a crushed heart,
but either way withtoo much love to give,
with the illision grow,
but nowwill no longer be the same,
my life will go on,
the tiresof my soul will never go,
my heart will never heal,
my heart has been aching since i lost you,
although ill' get over it ill learn how to live with it
cause i lost all in one



SONG:A MOTHERS PRAYER BY CELINE DION

I am just a little baby who didnt quite make it there,
I went straight to be with Jesus but i'm waiting for you here.
Don't fret about me mommy, I am of God's lambs most blessed
I'd have loved to stay there with you, but the shepard knows whats best.
Many dwelling here where I live, waited years to enter in.
Struggled through a world of sorrow
and their lives were married with sin.
so sweet mommy don't you sorrow
wipe those tears and chase the gloom,
I went straight to be with Jesus
Newborn from my lovely mother's womb.
Thank you for the life you gave me
It was brief, but dont complain.
I have all of heaven's glory Suffered none of earthling's pain.
Thank you for the name you gave me
would have loved to brought it fame.
But i heard the Shepard call me, and my heavenly angel came
Daddy gave me something for you, its our secret mommy dear.
Pressed it tight against my forehead, whispered in my tiny ear.
→ "i'll be waiting for you mommy -- you daddy, i will miss"←
I will be with you forever, then i will give you daddys kiss.


this was read at my daughter's funeral.
rest in peace Abryanna Nicole -- 4.4.2010

Quoting MartinTreeHouse:“ I made this slideshow three years ago after my second miscarriage. After that I lost twins at 16 weeks ... [snip!] ... May not realize Until their time is done Remember all the love you have And know that you are A Special Mom Author Unknown”

i loved the video it made me cry good choice  

Quoting Melis♥:“ Have a poem, song, or just words that help you get through the day? Post them here.”

in my arms by plumb

Broken Dreams

As children bring their broken toys
With tears for us to mend,
I brought my broken dreams to God
Because He was my friend.
But then instead of leaving Him
In peace to work alone,
I hung around and tried to help
With ways that were my own.

At last I snatched them back and cried,
"How could you be so slow"
"My child," He said, "What could I do?
You never did let go."

Robert J. Burdette

sQuoting Laina  :“ Here is a song that helped me through my miscarriage in July: Go to listen: http://www.myspace.com/watermarkcom ... [snip!] ... what they must sound like But I will rest in knowing, heaven is your home And it’s all you’ll ever know…all you’ll ever know…”

This is the song we played at my daughters funeral.

"Pick Yourself Up” by Dianne Reeves

"in my arms" by plumb
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