re: Preemie Moms Chat Thread

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" Hey! Just gave birth to a 30 weeker Friday Feb. 1st http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2442030.html That's ... [snip!] ... have enough time with my older son and at the NICU and still enough time to sleep too. Whew! If you read this, I'm sorry lol"

I will be honest with you, a NICU stay is an emotional roller coaster. How far do you live from the hospital, usually if you are 15 miles or more, you can see if there is a Ronald McDonald House nearby.

Have they told you a whole lot about what is going to be happening with him? I saw in your other post that he was on the nasal cannula, which is great. He will be in an incubator until he reaches a certain weight, I think its different for every NICU, but the NICU my daughter was in, she had to be in one until she hit 4 lbs.

The one thing that worried me so much, is that she would know when I wasn't there, and I asked the nurse about it, and she said they know when you are there, but they don't know when you are not there because they have no concept of time yet. When you are there, just talk to him, if you are allowed to touch him, just hold his hand or lightly stroke his back. He knows you best, he knows your voice and he knows your touch.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" Hi ladies. Im laura and i had my 35 Weeker scarlytt jan 25. I am getting into counseling cause I think ... [snip!] ... emergency. She's choked on milk twice and turned blue. We called ems the first time. Did anyone else have struggles like this?"</blockquote>



I'm sorry  
I had no idea you were going through that.
I am already terrified of bringing Creedence home even though it'll be around a month and a half. I feel like I'll be even more paranoid than I was being a new mom with Will, so although I haven't been through it yet I have thought about it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:</b>" I will be honest with you, a NICU stay is an emotional roller coaster. How far do you live from the hospital, ... [snip!] ... to touch him, just hold his hand or lightly stroke his back. He knows you best, he knows your voice and he knows your touch."</blockquote>


I'm about 9 miles away. It's ok though, I have to come home at night to be with Will. I'm spending the day with him today and he keeps telling me constantly how happy he is to spend time with me and asking for hugs etc.
They didn't mention how long he'd be in the incubator. He wasn't for the first day, but he wasn't keeping his body temp up. I was assuming once he started keeping his body temp up they'd take him out but I'll ask now.
They also told me stroking is too much stimulation for his age so I just put my hand on his back or head and leave it there. When we do kangaroo care I sing and sing and sing lol he loves it. He is soooooo adorable he will open his eyes and look at me, it melts my heart.

I just want to bring him home  
Will can't meet him because of flu season they aren't allowing kids in the hospital at all and it's really bothering him. I'm also wearing myself too thin.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:</b>" I will be honest with you, a NICU ... [snip!] ... of flu season they aren't allowing kids in the hospital at all and it's really bothering him. I'm also wearing myself too thin."</blockquote>

That's what I did. I am still not recovering well from my csection because I wore myself out going back and forth from my bed to the nicu to feed her. She was in an incubator for the whole time she was in the nicu. She got in an open crib when they let her come with me.

I'm definitely struggling. At first I thought maybe ppd. But then I realized its not her. I take care of her and she doesn't stress me out. It's the situation that is hard for me to cope with. That's when I started researching PTSD and I had a lot of the symptoms (except like the ones people who have tragic accidents or deployed soldiers go through). I hope undontnhave it. But it says it's normal After traumatic experiences to feel that way for a couple weeks but if it persists or gets worse it could be PTSD. It'll be 2 weeks on Friday and I'm not getting better. So I figured I'd try to stay on it and get help before it gets out of hand. Of it goes away great. If not at least I'll already be Gettig help.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... try to stay on it and get help before it gets out of hand. Of it goes away great. If not at least I'll already be Gettig help."</blockquote>


Yeah yesterday I was crying randomly in the most awkward places, so stressed I was shaking and nauseous, I was hot and cold, my belly hurt, I really thought I was getting the flu.
I finally forced myself to eat and I felt a LOT better. But then I couldn't sleep  
I got like 1 1/2 hrs of sleep, woke up to pump, and got another 2 hours before I got up for good. I tried to nap with Will but he wouldn't go to sleep and then he fell asleep while I was pumping and even after I finished I couldn't lay down because he was on my lap and would wake up.


I hope counseling helps you!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" ... [snip!] ... and even after I finished I couldn't lay down because he was on my lap and would wake up. I hope counseling helps you!"</blockquote>

That's how I was and still am. I hope yours subsides. I felt like a complete idiot. I went for my 1 week incision check and I sat up and it hurt so bad. I tarted tearing up. And then I couldn't stop sobbing. The nurse got the dr for me haha. Of course the first thing he asked me was if my Wellbutrin was still
Working ok haha.

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:</b>" I will be honest with you, a NICU ... [snip!] ... of flu season they aren't allowing kids in the hospital at all and it's really bothering him. I'm also wearing myself too thin."

Oh that made me remember back to when I would do kangaroo care with Anya, I would talk to her, and she was so tiny, but she would look up at me with such love in her eyes. Its very comforting for them I have heard, when they can hear your voice and feel your touch.

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" ... [snip!] ... and even after I finished I couldn't lay down because he was on my lap and would wake up. I hope counseling helps you!"

oh I would start crying in the most awkward places too, like one night, DH took me out to dinner after we left the hospital, and out of nowhere I just started bawling my eyes out in the middle of the restaurant, luckily there was only one other table there, and they were on the other side, but the waitress came up to us and asked if everything was okay, and we told her we had a preemie in the hospital, and thats why I was crying. She said she would brb, and she came back with a dessert on her, and her manager told her if I needed to talk, that she could sit with us as long as we wanted her to. The other table was another server's table, and we were her only table, she sat with us for almost an hour, and I cried the whole time. That waitress, we are still friends with today.

What were your babies doing at 4 months corrected age?

We had our developmental screen today and Bub did pretty well. The woman was concerned about his language skills because he doesn't laugh much. He'll shriek and look like he wants to laugh, but it's not coming out yet.

Quoting Love Wedge +2:" What were your babies doing at 4 months corrected age? We had our developmental screen today and Bub ... [snip!] ... his language skills because he doesn't laugh much. He'll shriek and look like he wants to laugh, but it's not coming out yet."

Anya was actually having a hard time meeting developmental milestones at this age, and she got an occupational therapist that came to our house and helped her out, and it was just the little boost that she needed, and then she started hitting them all on point. Now our only problem is her language skills and she is almost 4, so she is going to go start to go to a speech therapist soon.

Hi ladies. I haaven't posted in here lately. but who knew a year ago from today would be my last 17p shot cuz my princess would make an early arrival. 2 days until shes 1!!!!!!!
Birth:




Yesterday standing unassisted!!!

Quoting Coda&Cadence's Mommy:" Hi ladies. I haaven't posted in here lately. but who knew a year ago from today would be my last 17p ... [snip!] ... 17p shot cuz my princess would make an early arrival. 2 days until shes 1!!!!!!! Birth: Yesterday standing unassisted!!! "

Aww she is so cute. happy bday little one!

Dylan took another whole feeding,
well left a few ccs so that's close
enough to celebrate lol

look at Cadence

Quoting Coda&Cadence's Mommy:" look at Cadence "

aww so cute