re: Birth Trauma/Birth Rape Support Thread

Quoting barefootmama'sTTC:“ I was in early for 5 days, and hadn't slept in four. It started at a doctors appointment, where my OB ... [snip!] ... hislicense revoked for killing to newborns with forceps by crushing their heads. Smurfing evil bastard, I am so glad he's gone.”

that is so horrible
i want to punch that guy in the face
what a smurfing smurf

thank god your daughter was not hurt worse or even god forbid killed

that has to be something that stays with you

Quoting tantric☮lemons:“ that is so horrible i want to punch that guy in the face what a smurfing smurf thank god your daughter was not hurt worse or even god forbid killed that has to be something that stays with you”

Honestly, I still have nightmares about it, and I panic at the idea of giving birth in a hospital again. I will do everything in my power to never give birth with an OB ever again. It makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about all of it.

Quoting barefootmama'sTTC:“ Honestly, I still have nightmares about it, and I panic at the idea of giving birth in a hospital again. ... [snip!] ... everything in my power to never give birth with an OB ever again. It makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about all of it.”

seriously mine wasn't nearly as bad
but its something i can't get over
every time i would post about how i felt on BG i would get told that i have a healthy baby and i should get over it. That i am just making it worse for myself by holding onto it. And it was even insinuated that i won't be as good of a mom if i dont get over it

so i can imagine how this is still very real in your life

Quoting tantric#9774;lemons:“ how much did she end up weighing? i had a 10 lbs baby and i had no doubt she was that big”

7lbs6oz.

Quoting Boob Tick's Mom ebft.:“ 7lbs6oz.”

what a bunch of smurfs

Quoting tantric☮lemons:“ seriously mine wasn't nearly as bad but its something i can't get over every time i would post about ... [snip!] ... insinuated that i won't be as good of a mom if i dont get over it so i can imagine how this is still very real in your life”

Seriously, anyone saying that to you, is a smurfing idiot. No matter what, your experience was traumatic, andunderstandablyso. You don't just get over something like that over night.

Quoting barefootmama'sTTC:“ Honestly, I still have nightmares about it, and I panic at the idea of giving birth in a hospital again. ... [snip!] ... everything in my power to never give birth with an OB ever again. It makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about all of it.”

I think anyone who has been through an experience like that would be affected for life.
And it's absolutely LUDICROUS that that kind of treatment is absolutely forbidden in any other sector of life, and yet in your most vulnurable moments, in what should be the most joyous day of your life, you are told that somehow you have no rights and no voice and no control, and to shut up and be greatful that you have a healthy baby.

It makes me sick.

What if you were jumped on the street by a man who shoved forceps inside of you and tore your vagina open and you needed a blood transfusion? You'd have EVERY right to have PTSD, but because it happened during labor, you have to shut up and take it.
Bullsmurf.

Quoting barefootmama'sTTC:“ Seriously, anyone saying that to you, is a smurfing idiot. No matter what, your experience was traumatic, andunderstandablyso. You don't just get over something like that over night.”

its kinda like telling someone who was raped to just get over it

Quoting Sharonblueyes{EBFB}:“ I think anyone who has been through an experience like that would be affected for life. And it's ... [snip!] ... You'd have EVERY right to have PTSD, but because it happened during labor, you have to shut up and take it. Bullsmurf.”

Did you read the thread that inspired this? People in there were calling it a "bad experience" and such. One person said something along the lines of "you may not of liked what your doctors had done, but I wouldn't go as far as calling it birth rape". I didn't just NOT LIKE what my doctors did. What my doctors did was WRONG, and sick, and as my mom said BARBARIC! Why should us woman look down in shame and hide this, when WE did nothing wrong! Why should we continue to let people DEFEND what our doctors did. Argh, it just made me so angry.

Quoting barefootmama'sTTC:“ Did you read the thread that inspired this? People in there were calling it a "bad experience" and such. ... [snip!] ... when WE did nothing wrong! Why should we continue to let people DEFEND what our doctors did. Argh, it just made me so angry.”

I read a few pages and closed it. It made me so angry.

Quoting tantric☮lemons:“ that made me cringe i am so sorry your experience was like that ”

  thanks

Quoting D33Z NUT$™:“   thanks”

i know the feeling about not wanting another because of it

Quoting tantric☮lemons:“ its kinda like telling someone who was raped to just get over it”

Exactly. But apparently since a man didn't force his dick in our vaginas, we don't deserve to call it rape.

Quoting barefootmama'sTTC:“ I was in early for 5 days, and hadn't slept in four. It started at a doctors appointment, where my OB ... [snip!] ... hislicense revoked for killing to newborns with forceps by crushing their heads. Fucking evil bastard, I am so glad he's gone.”

  I am so sorry for your labor experience, that is absolutely horrible.
I am glad your little one was alright! The doctor is a idiot and should rot in jail!

Quoting tantric☮lemons:“ i know the feeling about not wanting another because of it”

I told my SO that I don't think I would ever want another, he just doesn't understand.