Work issue/fight with my boyfriend, I need some advice...

Ok, I am 21 and I am about 13 weeks pregnant, which I am way excited about. I was told having children would be a fight for me if it could happen at all. And now I am pregnant and we werent even actually trying yet.

But my problem is... I was living in Florida getting ready to open up my own business, a doggy boutique and party planning thing, when I got and found out I was pregnant. Now I am from Michigan, which is where my boyfriend lives, so I automatically moved back without hesitation, and left the business to my partner, which she is doing great, already, with it. So I figured since he lives in a tourist town I would just open up my own, under a seperate name, up here.

But now he is saying no, that it is a waste of time, money and energy. He says we have more important things to do, like finish the up stairs, where our master suite is going, and in turn, making our current bedroom his kids room, and turning his kids current room into a nursery. So I KNOW we have a lot to do, but he already told me, along with the doctors, that I cant exactly be lifting and hanging drywall. Or using half the stuff you need to finish the rooms. And of course he wants me to get a part time job too, which I agree with. But even in FL I had and was going to keep a part time job as I opened the business, so I had a cash flow to pay my bills.

So I feel like he is afraid I will make him to more work around the houe and with the baby if I open up a business because then we would be even. (He works for his father in the family business, which his parents run, and which he will be taking over one day.) But I have told him before, I am NOT a house wife, I prefer to make enough money to pay someone to do my deep cleaning once a week and stuff. And I do NOT want to be like his mom and be his little secertary when he takes over the family business. He has a sister who can do that, I dont need to, plus I feel they would disapprove of anyone but his sister taking over his moms part of it all.

So I am not sure what to do or say. Personally I want to just open it anyways and screw him. When he figures out I am running it, then oh well, he can deal. (Plus none of my own money goes into it, so he cant complain about that) But I know that would cause an even BIGGER fight. And thats not what I need, being pregnant and all. But I dont know how to get him to understand I dont want to work FOR someone when I have the rare opportunity to BE that someone.

girl i totally hear where ur coming from!! and hell...us being 21...and YOU HAVE STARTED UR OWN BUSINESS!! girl,u got ur $h** straight for sumone our age! dnt let that man tell u THATS A WASTE OF TIME..look at the difference U HAVE UR OWN BIZZ...HES TAKIN OVER SUMONE ELSES!! feel me? and i take that back...HE KNOW U PREGNANT AND IS B****ING ABOUT HAVN 2 DO MORE WORK AROUND THE HOUSE!! THAT AINT NO MAN! a REAL man wuldnt want u doin too much with u being pregnant FEARING that u culd miscarry,even if its NOT that serious!! u pullin ur weight,so what is his problem?? u got ur mind right about forgettin wha he says tho...DO YOU! u get urs that way u dnt hav to DEPEND on that man...thats sad he is acting like that tho. how old is he? age shouldnt matter..but becuz he's scared hes gonna hav to do more work around the house...ANY MAN wouldnt mind it since his woman is expecting their child!

congrats on the business mind u have and ur baby!! i hope everything turns out well

Oh he is 27, and its more he always wanted a house wife, and I have always told him that was never going to be me, but I think he was hopeing me being pregnant would change my mind. But he already has a 6 year old too, so he did the single dad thing, so he knows what to do, and I know he can do it.

o ok...grown man lol nothin wrong with that. well he shouldnt feel that ur pregnancy would hinder u and make u wanna do all the sterotypical WOMANLY things "barefoot,pregnant,in kitchen"...u just keep the mindstate u have and its gonna get u even further hun..